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First thing first, you gota hang out with some single friends (dudes). There are people to party with, and there are people to spend a Sunday afternoon with. Your friends, being all married and not having the time, sound like they all fall in the 2nd category.

And just because you need some female attention doesn't mean that you should get into a huge relationship, IMO.

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Subscribed, because I am perpetually single. Having said that, I've seen friends go through nasty divorces. Don't need that.
 
Go on a month long solo motorcycle trip. Accumulate some adventures and become yourself. Put yourself out there. You can't meet women sitting at home at your computer. (There is a joke opp here.) Get out with friends. They may know a female in your situation and fix you up. Introductions are easier than cold call pick up attempts.
 
Schneller said:
Introductions are easier than cold call pick up attempts.
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Thats just your opinion I think. I know for some of my friends, they HAVE TO be introduced. It's 100% opposite for me. I gota do all the work through a complete stranger.
 
What you want to do is stop being a little girl and grow a pair.


People come and go.. do what you love doing... get out and enjoy life and your interests and you will eventually find someone that is on the same road as you. There is someone for everyone (with a little compromise)

I think you need to focus on you, instead of focusing on what society tells you that you should be.















If all else fails. Mail order bride.
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Jinster81,

dude... I would like to throw my 2 cents into this...
#1. The age at which you will unite with your other half doesn't matter. I know some cultures and communities have their own standards and expectations. Don't let them rule you. It's YOUR life and only YOU decide what to do with it.
#2. Unfortunately, we live in the world where material things are the first things that get you noticed. You've got a job and a good credit? Smash that dusty piggy bank of yours and invest into a decent car. It will not get you a wifey in an instance, but will open up a few doors for sure.
#3. If you can afford it - hire a stylist who will help to assemble your wardrobe. If not, go out to shopping malls and ask sales reps (ladies or gay guys) to help you pick what looks good on you. Remember, a man who is successful always look good (smells good too!). It doesn't mean you should wear a 3-piece suit all the time, a simple white t-shirt and jeans can do the trick, however getting a third party advice is absolutely necessary! Go, do it now.

Once all the above is accomplished get this dating bible: The Game by Neil Strauss. Read it and understand it. You can't learn how to swim without getting your feet wet first. So go out there and do what you were told in the book. Don't get discouraged by failures. It's a numbers game. The more you try, the better you will become.

And remember...
NO RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BAD RELATIONSHIP.

Good luck!
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Corsara said:
Dude, you're breaking my heart :( Not because of your situation, but because of how you feel about it.

I don't know if it will make you feel any better, but for what it's worth I'm almost in the opposite end---I married young (at 24), have two kids, mortgage, etc, however almost all of my old friends my age (33) are single, living their live---trips to other countries, nights out, parties or whatever rocks their boat. They call me less and less, because every time they do, I can't go.. I'm not Asian, so I don't know your culture and the people around you, but what I would do if I were you is to travel, go to the weirdest and most unusual places around the world, do something you never dared to, make a bucket list and work on it. Sooner or later you'll find your other half, everybody does, most often in the most unexpected and unusual places. But what's the rush, really.. you're a guy, you've got a job and no ties for mortgage, no expensive car...so you can take a vacation, vacations, unpaid if it may be...enjoy your freedom, because once you settle down, you'll have responsibility, a BIG one. And before you know it, you'll be a grumpy old man preaching to your kids about things you didn't care yourself when you were younger, and you turned out just fine.
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WELL SAID!!!!!!
Here is my 2cents.. You are still YOUNG enjoy all you can and go with the flow.
 
Ugur Dinch said:
Thats just your opinion I think. I know for some of my friends, they HAVE TO be introduced. It's 100% opposite for me. I gota do all the work through a complete stranger.
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Everything each of us posts, including you, is just our opinion.
 
Schneller said:
Go on a month long solo motorcycle trip. Accumulate some adventures and become yourself.
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For a guy who sounds lonely like OP, I dont think a month long solo motorcycle trip is going to be productive and put him out there to meet young women. Probably just make him feel worse!

He's still a young guy, better to take that month and go backpacking in a country that young travellers gravitate too.
 
Have you tried speed dating? You likely won't meet your life partner, but it's a great way of meeting a lot of ladies and working on your dating techniques. I did it a few years ago (with 25dates.com), and it wasn't all that bad. Went to a club with some of the people afterwards, too. But, didn't score any sex, though. lol



AL3RT said:
#3. If you can afford it - hire a stylist who will help to assemble your wardrobe. If not, go out to shopping malls and ask sales reps (ladies or gay guys) to help you pick what looks good on you.
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OP, if you're looking for some styling advice (or need someone to go shopping with you), feel free to PM me. I do men's wear, and can give some pointers in terms of what to wear based on your body type.

Also, I'm not sure if Yorkdale Mall is still doing this, but you can book one of their stylists for like $25 (and, if you ended up buying something, that fee would go towards your purchase). For men's wear stores, you might try GotStyle. They're pretty good and friendly.

Good luck!
 
yum yum said:
Have you tried speed dating? You likely won't meet your life partner, but it's a great way of meeting a lot of ladies and working on your dating techniques. I did it a few years ago (with 25dates.com), and it wasn't all that bad. Went to a club with some of the people afterwards, too. But, didn't score any sex, though. lol





OP, if you're looking for some styling advice (or need someone to go shopping with you), feel free to PM me. I do men's wear, and can give some pointers in terms of what to wear based on your body type.

Also, I'm not sure if Yorkdale Mall is still doing this, but you can book one of their stylists for like $25 (and, if you ended up buying something, that fee would go towards your purchase). For men's wear stores, you might try GotStyle. They're pretty good and friendly.

Good luck!
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If all else fails check out Boston Pizza...

I remember Roasted posted a similar post with the same pet peeve not too long ago.... he seems to have disappeared , purhaps he found the answer...
 
still want to know how you are broke if you dont own any of the things in that list, yet have a job that pays well enough to afford it.
 
AL3RT said:
Jinster81,

dude... I would like to throw my 2 cents into this...
#1. The age at which you will unite with your other half doesn't matter. I know some cultures and communities have their own standards and expectations. Don't let them rule you. It's YOUR life and only YOU decide what to do with it.
#2. Unfortunately, we live in the world where material things are the first things that get you noticed. You've got a job and a good credit? Smash that dusty piggy bank of yours and invest into a decent car. It will not get you a wifey in an instance, but will open up a few doors for sure.
#3. If you can afford it - hire a stylist who will help to assemble your wardrobe. If not, go out to shopping malls and ask sales reps (ladies or gay guys) to help you pick what looks good on you. Remember, a man who is successful always look good (smells good too!). It doesn't mean you should wear a 3-piece suit all the time, a simple white t-shirt and jeans can do the trick, however getting a third party advice is absolutely necessary! Go, do it now.

Once all the above is accomplished get this dating bible: The Game by Neil Strauss. Read it and understand it. You can't learn how to swim without getting your feet wet first. So go out there and do what you were told in the book. Don't get discouraged by failures. It's a numbers game. The more you try, the better you will become.

And remember...
NO RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BAD RELATIONSHIP.

Good luck!
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Don't you have a rule about @sses too? I recall hearing something of the sort while hanging out on Queen st. I believe Sinz can confirm this :lmao:
 
Roomie said:
Don't you have a rule about @sses too? I recall hearing something of the sort while hanging out on Queen st. I believe Sinz can confirm this :lmao:
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Yessss... However, that's way too advanced to be described at this point. Let's limit to the basics for now :D
 
Here's my two cents:

#1. Read The Game by Neil Strauss. The techniques work. Just be careful not to go too far because you may lose yourself or lose respect for women. And for the love of God, don't pay $1,000-$2,000 for RSD classes (they actually exist, I looked them up after reading).

#2. Work on looking at things in a better light. I'm Asian as well and sometimes I want to straight up slap my parents for raising me with such a negative mindset. Motorcycling is one thing that's taught me to be less negative because in order to operate the machine at high speeds and corner properly, I need to have an optimistic mindset and believe in both myself and the machine. Negativity tends to manifest itself as fear and fear triggers many survival reactions that will make riders crash.

Stop worrying about what others think of you and work on what YOU think of yourself. Chances are, because you're Asian with a similar culture to mine, you have horrible self-esteem/self-worth and confidence. You down play your own achievements (I worked on a cloud-based digital content creation tool that has become huge, while I worked on it, I kept telling myself I was wasting my time) and instead think highly of others who are "close" to your achievement level.

I could go on but I'm pretty sure I hit a few points here considering your post was full of negativity and lack of self-worth. Forget the girls man, focus on yourself first. You're going to end up with a real ****** girl that needs a lot of adjustments if you don't fix yourself first.
 
If putting any effort is not your forte, you can always lower your standards.
 
OP good on you for posting as that definitely took some nuts. I was in a similar situation (just continually dating here and there) and wasn't able to find a girl that I was really into it. Then I gave up and focused on myself, bought the bike, bought a place to live, stopped searching for 'the one' and lo and behold she fell right into my lap! We've been together about a year, and are now planning our small wedding for next month as frankly I can't think of being with someone else. She doesn't have the things I put in my head of must haves, but she had the ones that mattered. And it took me to find her in my life to realize the things that I had been looking for were materialistic and really not that important in the grand scheme of things. I read that book 'The Game' but found it full of so much BS that I didn't even finish it. My advice...stop searching, enjoy your life, go out with friends, join some extra curricular activities with co-ops and just have fun. And if you're into travelling make sure you stay at hostels. All sorts of people there and you're forced to talk and meet with them simply because of the way hostels are set up. Best trip of my life was staying in many hostels in Australia, and to this day I think fondly of it.
 
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