30 is an extremely BORRING age to be, Marriage rant

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Rob MacLennan said:
"Love" certainly does. Problem is that too many people have this unrealistic idea that the huge emotional surge of "being IN love" can last for more than a relatively short period of time. These people were raised on too many, "... and they lived happily ever after" fables.
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Yup. The "I still love you, but I am not in love with you" crowd.
What they don't realize is that love isn't a feeling like hot, cold, hungry etc. Love is a decision. Getting married, you have to know that your relationship will face struggles. It isn't always gonna feel like your wedding night. Love is the choice to make it work, even when it doesn't feel like the wedding night anymore. But divorce is easy, fast, and in style now. Like a mariiage abortion, of sorts.
 
omnivore said:
Yup. The "I still love you, but I am not in love with you" crowd.
What they don't realize is that love isn't a feeling like hot, cold, hungry etc. Love is a decision. Getting married, you have to know that your relationship will face struggles. It isn't always gonna feel like your wedding night. Love is the choice to make it work, even when it doesn't feel like the wedding night anymore. But divorce is easy, fast, and in style now. Like a mariiage abortion, of sorts.
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Inability to tell the difference between "love" and "horny."
 
omnivore said:
Yup. The "I still love you, but I am not in love with you" crowd.
What they don't realize is that love isn't a feeling like hot, cold, hungry etc. Love is a decision. Getting married, you have to know that your relationship will face struggles. It isn't always gonna feel like your wedding night. Love is the choice to make it work, even when it doesn't feel like the wedding night anymore. But divorce is easy, fast, and in style now. Like a mariiage abortion, of sorts.
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Well said.

The "I'm not in love with you anymore" excuse usually just means that they've met someone else.
 
Agree with Omnivore! and AIf4k.

Single and almost 28, agree that alot of my friends are getting married etc. It is nice to have some single friends to escape with, ride with etc. Im not one of those girls that needs a ring by.... and children by...... certain dates. My parents have been married well over 30 years, so I do think its possible with the right people, and the right effort, for now I wont be pressured into anything I dont want to do, and my parents and friends and family get that.

Jenn
 
short stop said:
Well said.

The "I'm not in love with you anymore" excuse usually just means that they've met someone else.
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...someone's bitter...

Kidding aside, it's odd to paint all divorces with this sort of brushstroke...
 
dr_sarcasm said:
...someone's bitter...

Kidding aside, it's odd to paint all divorces with this sort of brushstroke...
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My post isn't to be taken entirely seriously. :cool:
 
Same position... 29 in a few months, been single for quite a while and see all my friends/family getting married and having kids... A few of the married ones I'll hang out with, but it's usually a BBQ at home or something like that.

The people I actually ride with and get along with, are almost all younger, early 20s.

I've had a pretty rough go with relationships. Growing up I was exposed to nothing but marriage as being a horrible thing, and dealing with the BS chicks dish out (I've heard every line out there, and I've had some pretty crazy stunts pulled on me), including a fiance leaving while I was on tour, only for a year and a half later to decide she wants me back, while she's still with a guy who is raising her kid, and she's basically using him until she finishes school, he has no clue and is trying to propose to her (she found the ring).
I hear people ***** and moan about all the crap their other half pulls, and my friends who are just dating someone usually have some BS going on. Add in all my nasty experiences, and I wonder why on earth do people even date?

Sure, I have a "lonely" life but it's damn uncomplicated, the only person I rely on is myself (and that's all you can EVER rely on). My money is my money, my time is my time, my space is my space, and I don't have to wonder where she is and who she's doing while I'm out working somewhere. Plus, this area is HORRIBLE for meeting a half decent girl with a job and no kids...

I see people getting married, and just think it's a mistake.
Would I like to meet someone and get married, have kids etc? Sure would... But do I want to risk what I have for when she decides she needs something new? Nope.

I can understand the excitement, but I just don't think the new has worn off yet... The wedding buzz will last a bit, then they'll need to have a kid or two to keep that feeling going... And then what?
 
Red695 said:
I felt like that for the first couple years too. People change it seems. Go figure.
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Yeah that's why I dated her for a while to make sure the feeling was going to stick around lol

Love her more now then when i married her.... She's doing something right.... lol
 
mid twenties.
half of my friends my age getting hitched. cultural thing.
half of my weekends in summer gone to events.

everybody is broke "gotta save for the wedding!"

everybody is stressed "there's SO much to do!"

running out of things to talk about. because they are doing nothing else. except getting married.
 
Once upon a time a Prince asked a beautiful Princess will you marry me?
The Princess said No!
And the Prince lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles and screwed with cute skinny girls and hunted and raced cars, and went to naked bars and dated women half his age and drank beer, jack daniel’s and captain morgan and drank milk from the box and never heard bitching and went to rock concerts and kept his apartment and his favorite jeans and never got cheated on while working and all his family and friends thought he was cool as hell and had tons of money and left the toilet seat up.
The End!
 
Jayv said:
Worked out perfectly for Steve Jobs......
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It would have . He ignored his expensive private clinic doctors advice and didn't have surgery instead electing to try homeopathic crap. He would still be alive if he had listened. And his money prolonged his life at least 2 more years where he got to spend time with his family. Nice try though!
 
Tessie11 said:
Once upon a time a Prince asked a beautiful Princess will you marry me?
The Princess said No!
And the Prince lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles and screwed with cute skinny girls and hunted and raced cars, and went to naked bars and dated women half his age and drank beer, jack daniel’s and captain morgan and drank milk from the box and never heard bitching and went to rock concerts and kept his apartment and his favorite jeans and never got cheated on while working and all his family and friends thought he was cool as hell and had tons of money and left the toilet seat up.
The End!
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lol
 
sonnythebull said:
It would have . He ignored his expensive private clinic doctors advice and didn't have surgery instead electing to try homeopathic crap. He would still be alive if he had listened. And his money prolonged his life at least 2 more years where he got to spend time with his family. Nice try though!
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Cancer doesn't choose between the rich and poor.

Nice analogy though(or dream world) you've got going there.
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