Why Men and Women Cant Be Friends

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RetroGrouch said:
I've had platonic relationships with women, they even tell me I'm a good catch. So why have none them ever tried hooking me up with one of their friends or acquaintances? Because then I'd end up paying more attention to the other girl.
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And how many guys have been friends with girls, only to have said girl basically abandon them once they find a BF?

I recently went through this. Had a chick friend I went to school with (would not have dated her but would have been up for a triple-x throw down fo sho) who never had any serious BFs the whole time I knew her (7 years or so). I would have considered here a very close friend. Well, she got a BF back in January and it got pretty serious pretty quickly. She went from being 27 years old to being a little old lady over night. She's a complete hermit now and I haven't even talked to her in a few months.

Meh.

All good things come to an end.
 
Caboose, I understand that's kind of a pisser, but it does just naturally happen too.

What I would say is that if you're interested in your friend, at least make the move. If you won't put the shot on net, you have no right to complain. Adding an awkward twist to a friendship is better than committing yourself to years of frustration. And if you can't stand being friends with them, end it.
 
honduhmatic said:
Caboose, I understand that's kind of a pisser, but it does just naturally happen too.

What I would say is that if you're interested in your friend, at least make the move. If you won't put the shot on net, you have no right to complain. Adding an awkward twist to a friendship is better than committing yourself to years of frustration. And if you can't stand being friends with them, end it.
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Is this entirely directed at me? I'm not interested in my friend. I have plenty of other friends that still have social lives when they're in a relationship.
 
Sorry Caboose, I think it came off the wrong way to you. (You said yourself didn't want to date her.) The second paragraph wasn't at you.

What I'm getting off some of the other posts/posters is stuff like, "she wants my attention", "I take care of her **** for her and I'm not sleeping with her", etc.

If you don't want to fix her stuff, take care of her, ..., then don't. Or make it clear that that's a role that comes with benefits :D
 
Duster929 said:
What I learned from this video is that there are a lot of hotties in Utah.
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What I learned from this video is that girls like to ride the "guy friend" thing when in reality they like to be surrounded by guys that like them but lie to themselves and others by calling them "friends"

All the girls said yes, but when questioned in detail, they all knew the guys were around waiting for a ****.

Had this GF that liked to get stoned with her "best guy friend", I could and would never take her seriously because of this same reason and it didn't last long.
 
I don't know but I have a lot of guy friends that I'm cool with and don't like in a sexual way and they have never put the moves on me...prob cause they consider me as one of the guys though. I'm also not one of those girls that takes advantage of guy friends by making them do stuff for me. Who, knows I could be wrong... maybe they all wanna bang me. lol (I honestly don't think so though)

I also see girls(some are friends of mine) that have guy friends that totally love them off and they take advantage of it. I've gotten into arguments with these girls about how morally wrong it is.
 
Why nice guys finish last?
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I have a bunch of hot girl friends that I wouldn't bang because they're more useful as friends than hot chicks to have sex with. It trips other girls out when I say that I find them attractive, but I'm not attracted to these friends. I think that it's possible, but it's not for everyone. And no I'm not gay lol
 
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rafiki911 said:
I don't know but I have a lot of guy friends that I'm cool with and don't like in a sexual way and they have never put the moves on me...prob cause they consider me as one of the guys though. I'm also not one of those girls that takes advantage of guy friends by making them do stuff for me. Who, knows I could be wrong... maybe they all wanna bang me. lol (I honestly don't think so though)

I also see girls(some are friends of mine) that have guy friends that totally love them off and they take advantage of it. I've gotten into arguments with these girls about how morally wrong it is.
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This brings up a curious point... if they wanted to bang you, or date you, would you rather know?

Or does it depend on who it is? :p

Knowledge, I'm in the same boat... although these days, I tend to spend more time with one specific hot girl friend. There are some girls where you know they're attractive but just better suited as friends.
 
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knowledge said:
Why nice guys finish last?
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I have a bunch of hot girl friends that I wouldn't bang because they're more useful as friends than hot chicks to have sex with. It trips other girls out when I say that I find them attractive, but I'm not attracted to these friends. I think that it's possible, but it's not for everyone. And no I'm not gay lol
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face palm. Men be prepared for your new place in the kitchen
 
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RetroGrouch said:
I've had platonic relationships with women, they even tell me I'm a good catch. So why have none them ever tried hooking me up with one of their friends or acquaintances?.
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because tuna pays out at 75 bucks a pound ? thats a fantastic catch
 
afong56 said:
that my friends, is what we know of as 'callback' in the comedy world. . .
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I did not know there's a term for that stand-up technique. Virtually every comedian I watch on TV does it.
 
ZX600 said:
face palm. Men be prepared for your new place in the kitchen
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Being friends with hot chicks has plenty of perks at clubs, with meeting their hotter best friends, with other girls, etc. I'd have sex with them if they could actually just stay friends after that.

If you're the type of dude that bangs every chick that he meets just because he can (congrats, you've got status, you're able to carry on a conversation with a woman, or you're attractive), then it's not really anything to be proud of 'cause you're a *********. And if they're not getting attached to you after that, then you probably aren't that great of a person/aren't doing it right. But just 'cause you can't stay friends with a hot chick, doesn't mean that everyone who can is gay...:rolleyes:
 
knowledge said:

Being friends with hot chicks has plenty of perks at clubs, with meeting their hotter best friends, with other girls, etc. I'd have sex with them if they could actually just stay friends after that.

If you're the type of dude that bangs every chick that he meets just because he can (congrats, you've got status, you're able to carry on a conversation with a woman, or you're attractive), then it's not really anything to be proud of 'cause you're a *********. And if they're not getting attached to you after that, then you probably aren't that great of a person/aren't doing it right. But just 'cause you can't stay friends with a hot chick, doesn't mean that everyone who can is gay...:rolleyes:
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bla bla bla the question is why would you want to, hey man better for the rest of us, keep it up buddy!

I know this hot chick, would you like to be her friend..maybe do her laundry
 
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Depends on what you're after. I've always been after a girlfriend more than a 'buddy'. Also, nothing wrong with being a little selective.

On the other hand, I stopped being the nice guy sucker friend a few years ago after a few painful lessons of experience. If you're truly interested, you gotta put it out there. If one of you isn't, and it's weird, then there's seven billion other humans on earth.
 
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honduhmatic said:
Depends on what you're after. I've always been after a girlfriend more than a 'buddy'. Also, nothing wrong with being a little selective.

On the other hand, I stopped being the nice guy sucker friend a few years ago after a few painful lessons of experience. If you're truly interested, you gotta put it out there. If one of you isn't, and it's weird, then there's seven billion other humans on earth.
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ZX600 said:
bla bla bla the question is why would you want to, hey man better for the rest of us, keep it up buddy!

I know this hot chick, would you like to be her friend..maybe do her laundry
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You're so cool man! lmao
 
ZX600 said:
Don't be hurt, you are young, we'll talk in a few years.
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That would be a valid point if my age group wasn't pretty much at their physical prime, more affected by hormones, not at a point in our lives where we can be promiscuous because of less inhibitions, and we weren't placed in settings (clubs, parties, residences, campuses) where everyone else is in the same age bracket and just as horny...

Lack of life experience isn't a good point for you here especially since you tend to have less friends (both male & female) as you grow older and a less thriving social life than your teens/twenties. I don't really see this going anywhere, so we can probably just agree to disagree because I've already said that I can manage to stay friends with attractive women without any ulterior motives. Maybe it's not the case for you - idgaf; I'm just saying that it's possible to do this.
 
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Everyone's different, but my $0.02:

I found I met the most new people, and dated the most, between 24-26. No homework, and a steady income, for the win...

I met my fiancee because I stayed friends with an old girlfriend, and she set me up through a friend of a friend. Had also met lots of other girls through female friends - and usually had better luck this way than at the bar and in public.

Knowledge, I'm more on your side than ZX6's, but I do think you're over-thinking this.
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