I have the factory service manual. Has nothing in there about valve installed height.
The service manual doesn't explain every possible way in which parts can fail.
Measure the depth of the top of the valve tip below the top rim of the retainer (around where the shim sits). Easy to do with even the cheapest digital vernier. Measure this dimension for several of the valves. If the valve in question gives a measurement substantially different from the rest of them ... there is a problem. Whether it's because the keepers are beating up the groove in the valve stem, or the keepers are beating up the conical recess in the retainer, requires disassembly and inspection.
Be glad you caught this before it went catastrophic.