Toxic work colleagues

jc100 I understand what your going through. I have a coworker doing something very similar. The best thing I can tell you is just ignore it. You said yourself she will be gone soon. You have done it this long what could it hurt to keep quiet a little longer. You're doing a good job so don't let her get to you.

We have all been in these situations, and if you have not you're very lucky.
 
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One carefully placed spray of this on her will do the trick.
Honestly though, I agree with most of the posts on here..just let it go and keep records. The fact that you approached your boss is good, because now he/she is aware of the issue. I had a similar issue at my workplace with a fellow manager.. Bitter old lady who hated that fact the me (the 19 year old) got promoted to the same position as her.. Everyone in the workplace hated her, and it was documented. I went against my better judgement, and snapped one day.. cussed her off in front of a store full of customers, and went home that night thinking I lost my job. Turns out she was fired the next morning, since other employees and I had always reported what was going on...management took my side, I was never punished for it.
 
DOHC1, it depends on the company that you work for. In my workplace, which is municipal, we have a very comprehensive respectful workplace policy, and raising one's voice in anger to another has dire consequences regardless of the issue. That's why it's important to know the policy's at your workplace. Ignoring bad behaviour is about the worst thing you can do though.Either way it's a tough place to be in.
 
jc100 said:
I'm glad you can tell all that from a web forum. I work in a large department and have done for quite a few years with no incidents with anyone else. I get along with everyone except this one person who I have always been polite and professional to. In fact, I have gone out of my way to be completely correct in every interaction with her as I knew she could be "difficult". Despite this, she continued to belittle and criticise at every turn. After a while you kind of have enough of it.

Back to the real world: Confrontation might work in the playground but in a Canadian PC workplace confrontation has limited success as far as I can see. If I went to her and confronted her on these issues then I'm reasonably sure she would accuse me of aggressive behaviour. I know as she's done this before to someone else.

I think I'll try to wait this out and hope it goes when she goes.
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I suspect that she is bitter about leaving and losing a large part of her social life. Some people have a hard time leaving the workplace. It sounds like she has a history of bullying people and you are just one of a long line of people. She may have succeeded in the past in driving people out of the company but clearly she can't do this to you. This probably upsets her to no end.

If you lose your temper, she wins. If you lose control, she wins. If she can do something that causes you to do a bad job, she wins. If you spend your free time thinking about her, she wins. I have no idea why but people like this seem to thrive on this sort of conflict and are probably addicted to it. If you don't participate in the conflict, then she will be frustrated. Basically, she has a problem but it does not have to become your problem.

Good luck.
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