Dad relocates to Philippines to avoid paying support

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gtm said:
Spousal support is honestly a huge ****ing joke if you ask me. It's roots have great reasoning and basis, but this isn't the 50s anymore
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I have heard that if you divorce and are ordered to pay spousal support, in the event you get married again, your spouse can sue for more spousal support based on the income of your new partnership. Like, how does that work???
 
nakkers said:
If they have shared custody, there is no child support payments.
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Wrong.. Know of a case where parents had 50/50 but the ex wife still got child support and she was making decent coin, too.
 
FiReSTaRT said:
Wrong.. Know of a case where parents had 50/50 but the ex wife still got child support and she was making decent coin, too.
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this is true ...

I have a co-worker that makes about 70k ... the ex makes about 120k and he has to pay her about 700 / month for child care costs... the stupid part of this system is that she didn't even ask for any child costs the court just said you owe her 700 bucks hahahah
 
My buddy got custody of the kids, the car, and half the equity in the house. Even gets the (whatever it is they call it now) baby bonus/child credit. Pays nothing.
 
On the dads side....I'm sure he looses sleep over not being there for his kids but come on! He has to live like a beggar so she can keep her lifestyle?

You got bills? SELL THE DAMN HOUSE!!! She wants her cake and to eat it too....I never understood that, He works his *** off, provides the life for her that she would never have and then she wants out but to keep living in that style? Cant have your cake and eat it too.
 
gtm said:
That's the thing, the system doesn't care. The courts told my dad to start taking the bus when he said there was no way to afford his vehicle paying what they wanted him to.

Yeah, mother gets free handouts and is allowed to continue her lifestyle unchanged, meanwhile dad has his world flipped upside down and is told to give up everything he has ever known and built up...

I love both of my parents but I am a tad spiteful towards my mother for the **** she pulled, but in the end everything managed to work out.

Spousal support is honestly a huge ****ing joke if you ask me. It's roots have great reasoning and basis, but this isn't the 50s anymore

I have no idea how my dad managed to get through everything, I would have blown my own brains out. For a few years he was stuck living in a ******** basement apartment within walking distance of work, eating one meal a day and spending most of his time twoddlong his thumbs. He didn't even have the ability to flee to the phillipines, his assets were frozen and auto garnished, back support was factored in, all this ****. Finally after years of **** it was all sorted out and iirc my mom actually owes my dad money now because it turns out she lied about a whole load of circumstantial stuff to sway the courts and judge her way.. hmm I bet that never happens.

Stories like this hit home. Divoirces are nasty
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I'm going through a divorce now, husband cheated and was an absent father, and I am working hard to not take a penny from my him for child support or spousal even though I stayed home and raised them despite my desire to work. I want to set a good example for the kids. They are small now but I don't want them looking back and thinking mom ruined dad by demanding all kinds of money. I couldn't imagine doing that to anyone, let alone the father of my kids.

I don't understand what people can possibly be thinking when they act like these two acted. It just hurts their children. So sad. That being said I hope the dad is able to mend any rifts that have been created with his kids. Those poor kids :(
 
I assume he is working in the Philippines. If he is decent he will send money via his lawyer or a friend for the child support with the kids knowing where it's coming from and why. If she rejects free money she doesn't need it.
Unfortunately it seems she is determined to destroy him at any cost, including the kids. It's hard to fight blind rage.
I wonder if a few of the family murder / suicides we hear of are the result of the guy realizing the system is hopelessly against him. His life is shot. The kids are going to be druggies and the wife is an evil shrew that is killing her own children with hatred. Why not do the world a favour. Who knows?
 
My mom just got $100 a month from my dad...

Just thinking of all the toys I could had if that were $1000/month lol
 
invictus43 said:
I have heard that if you divorce and are ordered to pay spousal support, in the event you get married again, your spouse can sue for more spousal support based on the income of your new partnership. Like, how does that work???
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That is true. They now consider you to have a greater household income and since support is based on a percentage of your income, the amount you pay just went up.
 
revrandy said:
That is true. They now consider you to have a greater household income and since support is based on a percentage of your income, the amount you pay just went up.
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That's INSANE! Had the couple stayed together there never would have been an opportunity to have that "extra" income, so the point should be moot. So I guess this means ANY extra income is fair game? Lottery winnings? Inheritance? Insurance settlement?

That's nuts...

Is it feasible for all the fathers and ex's to get together and combine resources for a class-action against the system for its anti-male bias? Would that even be possible?
 
Move out of the million dollar home; sell it or rent it out. Apply to Metro Housing for rent geared to income. Money problems are now alleviated for the time being.
 
Red695 said:
I'm going through a divorce now, husband cheated and was an absent father, and I am working hard to not take a penny from my him for child support or spousal even though I stayed home and raised them despite my desire to work. I want to set a good example for the kids. They are small now but I don't want them looking back and thinking mom ruined dad by demanding all kinds of money. I couldn't imagine doing that to anyone, let alone the father of my kids.

I don't understand what people can possibly be thinking when they act like these two acted. It just hurts their children. So sad. That being said I hope the dad is able to mend any rifts that have been created with his kids. Those poor kids :(
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Kudos to you. I'm sure you are a super mom and will be your kids role model when they are old enough to understand all of this.

Don't do what those lazy a** b!tches do but u need to make sure that your ex-husband soon to be pays his fair share too. It wouldnt be fair to you or the kids if he just walks away with no responsibility whatsoever after he cheated. This sounds as wrong as the main story.

By the way, you deserve a much better man, and you will get one sooner or later.
 
Red695 said:
I'm going through a divorce now, husband cheated and was an absent father, and I am working hard to not take a penny from my him for child support or spousal even though I stayed home and raised them despite my desire to work. I want to set a good example for the kids. They are small now but I don't want them looking back and thinking mom ruined dad by demanding all kinds of money. I couldn't imagine doing that to anyone, let alone the father of my kids.

I don't understand what people can possibly be thinking when they act like these two acted. It just hurts their children. So sad. That being said I hope the dad is able to mend any rifts that have been created with his kids. Those poor kids :(
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I assume you have full custody? I still think child support of some kind would help. They still are his kids. I would like to think if I were in that situation, I'd still give something even if not required.

In general, I hate reading stuff like this, and it really makes marriage unappealing.
 
A reasonable amount of child support when one parent has sole custody is the right thing to do. I don't think anyone here has issues with that. It's the child support in joint custody cases and spousal support that most of us would take exception to. Also child support that never gets spent on the children <- that's what many "professional mothers" do - collect child support and child tax benefits, live comfortably but the kids get neglected.
 
two retarded parents that drag the kids into this...it's disgusting...the marriage went bad, real bad, and the mother is really taking it out on the dad, and the dad is just scum to take off and ditch the family...where's trojan man to beat these two into reality...ugh...
 
Jinniwind said:
Kudos to you. I'm sure you are a super mom and will be your kids role model when they are old enough to understand all of this.

Don't do what those lazy a** b!tches do but u need to make sure that your ex-husband soon to be pays his fair share too. It wouldnt be fair to you or the kids if he just walks away with no responsibility whatsoever after he cheated. This sounds as wrong as the main story.

By the way, you deserve a much better man, and you will get one sooner or later.
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He's just really volatile and not happy about getting divorced. You can't control how the other person will respond to a divorce situation. I'm not going to make it any better for anyone by tapping his assets.

Chaos said:
I assume you have full custody? I still think child support of some kind would help. They still are his kids. I would like to think if I were in that situation, I'd still give something even if not required.

In general, I hate reading stuff like this, and it really makes marriage unappealing.
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No, he wants part custody. That's fine but I have been trying to get him used to dealing with the kids in a fair and patient manner. He's getting better with them. They know dad struggles with their busy little personalities and that he means well. If all goes well I will be making more than him this year and he can use the money he doesn't have to pay in child support to make a nice home for the kids where he lives. I won't get married ever again. I really didn't want to in the first place but I was young and stupid.
 
GayManLoveIsOK said:
two retarded parents that drag the kids into this...it's disgusting...the marriage went bad, real bad, and the mother is really taking it out on the dad, and the dad is just scum to take off and ditch the family...where's trojan man to beat these two into reality...ugh...
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I dint know how he's supposed to survive on a $1000 a month? The courts screwed up.
 
Red695 said:
I won't get married ever again. I really didn't want to in the first place but I was young and stupid.
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Allllllriiiight, giggity giggity!

Seriously though its 'nice' from him that he's trying. A lot of them don't give a dam about it...so it will help them develop a lil better seeing the dad input some effort in the relationship
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