amicable breakups...do they exist?

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Gentleman there is a very easy way to make decisions when it comes to woman.
WITH A CLEAR HEAD.
And I dont mean the one on your shoulders.
Here is a scenario.

Friday night, buddies call you up to go to the local bar and throw a few back and have some laughs.
In the mean time the girl you met a few weeks ago want you to come over and watch a movie with her.
First thing that runs thru your mind is hmmm Id love to go have a few brews with the boys and just kick it, "BUT" if I play my cards rite I might just get lucky :snorting:.
But your torn because this chick lives an hour away and your just not in the mood to drive that far for a chance at a piece of tail (but you will).
Decision time!!! take a cold shower and fire on off.
Now ask yourself the same question.

Go have a few beers with the boys and shoot the %#?


OR
Drive an hour in hopes of getting :agave:?

Your decision will be based on brain activity not peinus activity and you will most likely make the rite choice ;).

Can you remain friends without getting your peinus involved?
You know im rite.
 
Like Usher said, let it Burn!!!!
 
There is no reason to stay friends, I gave it a try the last time and just got a slap in the face. Don't even try
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Like he said, stay away.

Still friends? - not the same. Think of a white blank piece of paper, nice and smooth (this is your friendship). Then you get into a relationship and there are a few bumps and the paper get crumpled and torn a bit. Now, when you break up, and still want to be friends, try to unfold that piece of paper. Dose it look the same, all nice and smooth - NO. Sadly, it will never be the same. Move on, get her off your shoulders, your toooooo good for her
 
boooya said:
Drive an hour in hopes of getting :agave:?

Your decision will be based on brain activity not peinus activity and you will most likely make the rite choice ;).

Can you remain friends without getting your peinus involved?
You know im rite.
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+1

in the OP's scenerio, just broken up with ex, last week, she wants to come over and help you out? From my own personal point of view, i dont see how the two of you last 2-3 hours without ending up in bed together, even that 2-3 hours is pushing it.

if its make up sex, then by all means, have fun, but if your trying to break up and be fwb, after one week, thats just not smart.
 
twinn said:
+1

in the OP's scenerio, just broken up with ex, last week, she wants to come over and help you out? From my own personal point of view, i dont see how the two of you last 2-3 hours without ending up in bed together, even that 2-3 hours is pushing it.

if its make up sex, then by all means, have fun, but if your trying to break up and be fwb, after one week, thats just not smart.
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I think the OP sounds a little more distant and past the relationship than you describe. Sure, there's a decent chance of that happening in the heat of the moment, but it sounds like the OP is pretty decisive that she isn't the one, and that it's time to ramble on.

Still, I agree that chilling with the ex a week after is a bad idea. I met with one two weeks after to give her her crap back, and the other... I left her crap in a box, on her porch.

Man, get out there, and let the bike help you out! I've been in a relationship since I've owned the bike, but I notice I get WAY more attention when I'm riding, or walking around town with the boots, jacket and helmet. (The jacket's padding makes it look like I have American Gladiator shoulders, which doesn't hurt.) This is a hobby that can help your game, be sure to use it. Even if you don't want to get right out there, or use the bike as a prop, it's probably a good time to put some miles on the bike. Might help you work things out.
 
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Just like someone said before, if you stay freinds with ur ex after a recent break-up, then ur just gonna end up getting back into a relationship and if its a relationship that u know u dont want anymore then just stay away. If its been like a year or something then it might be a different situation.

When ppl want to stay friends after a relationship I think its just a way of sucking the other person back into the tornado that broke u up in the first place.
 
We all like to think we can stay friends with exes but really, what's the point? If you still liked them enough to be friends with them you'd still be dating them.

Dump and run.
 
Rina said:
Just like someone said before, if you stay freinds with ur ex after a recent break-up, then ur just gonna end up getting back into a relationship and if its a relationship that u know u dont want anymore then just stay away. If its been like a year or something then it might be a different situation.

When ppl want to stay friends after a relationship I think its just a way of sucking the other person back into the tornado that broke u up in the first place.
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Nah, the reason is because the person that doesn't want to be friend is already been ****ed by someone else
 
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ZX600 said:
Nah, the reason is because the person that doesn't want to be friend is already been ****ed by someone else
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but what would it matter if ur "just friends" ,,,,, there u have it OP , ex's cant just be friends.
 
Rina said:
but what would it matter if ur "just friends" ,,,,, there u have it OP , ex's cant just be friends.
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Bingo. It's really hard to erase a few years of history and all those emotions from your brain, especially when it's only been a week or two. Either way, it makes for a very involved, potentially frustrating 'friendship' in the short term. My definition of 'amicable', and a better-than-average break-up, is not seeing the other and not airing dirty laundry through mutual friends.

There's six billion people on earth, and it's roughly a 50-50 gender split.
 
She just needs that "emotional" connection with you until something better comes along. Dont think for one second she wants back....shes "hanging out" cuz she doesnt have someone else to boink her yet.
 
Red_Liner740 said:
She just needs that "emotional" connection with you until something better comes along. Dont think for one second she wants back....shes "hanging out" cuz she doesnt have someone else to boink her yet.
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See thats why I like you, you are smart. As soon as she finds someone else to boink she will change her attitude towards you, run
 
This kinda doesn't make sence because she may actually still be in love with him but playing it cool and hoping to get back with him. He was the one that broke it of right cause he sees no future with her. So why would she be buying time till she can boink someone else. Seems like she still wants to be with him. Which is bad news. Don't use her for any "skills" she has cause she will be really ****** once she realizes there is never going to be anything there again.

Red_Liner740 said:
She just needs that "emotional" connection with you until something better comes along. Dont think for one second she wants back....shes "hanging out" cuz she doesnt have someone else to boink her yet.
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beataataeb said:
From a girl's point of view, she wants you back.
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makes sense, now you own your own place.......kick the golddigger to the curb. If she wanted you for you before you wouldn't have broken up, now you have a place she wants to be friends. Don't fall for it.
 
Red_Liner740 said:
She just needs that "emotional" connection with you until something better comes along. Dont think for one second she wants back....shes "hanging out" cuz she doesnt have someone else to boink her yet.
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I agree with all the advice in one way or another but this one actually makes the most sense to me

to her credit, she is not a gold digger
 
I have a great girl so it's hard for me to play cynical. A friend of mine recently broke up with her man. Amazing girl who just got in with the wrong guy. He's a real winner. She broke it off with him weeks ago and the guy wont leave her alone. She made the right choice IMO to leave him to chase her career but this guy doesn't clue in. I think I may need to have a chat with him.

Stage 5 clinger.
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