amicable breakups...do they exist?

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Stewart said:
where are these cougar bars ?
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lmao Chicken Deli on Mount Pleasant.... Watch out though I heard these cougars are aggressive.

To the OP your doing the right thing by breaking up with her cause you don't see a future with her. Nothing worse than a dude than just sticks around till something better shows up. Do the right thing and cut her out, keeping her around is the worst thing possible. Trust me.
 
rafiki911 said:
lmao Chicken Deli on Mount Pleasant.... Watch out though I heard these cougars are aggressive.

To the OP your doing the right thing by breaking up with her cause you don't see a future with her. Nothing worse than a dude than just sticks around till something better shows up. Do the right thing and cut her out, keeping her around is the worst thing possible. Trust me.
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ROFLMAO Chicken Deli....*shudder*

To the OP: I haven't read the whole thing....but amicable breakups do exist...i'm still friends with my ex and he's still friends with his ex before me. I don't think there's anything wrong with being friends if you're both adult about it and have the same perspective with regards to respecting the friendship...it's when one person wants something different that it becomes a problem.

I should also state that most women are nuts and that it doesn't seem to always work...lol...I've been there...tried that...usually ends up with me owning a few less clothes and them being burnt in a pile somewhere...
 
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Want some advice from someone that's been there and done that?If it's not working now it never will, people rarely change who there really are.Of your not willing to accept who she is, your not really in "love".Now here is the kicker ;)You own a home now...Common law will entitle her to half of it. Take your heart out of the equation an use your brain for this one.
 
boooya said:
Want some advice from someone that's been there and done that?If it's not working now it never will, people rarely change who there really are.Of your not willing to accept who she is, your not really in "love".Now here is the kicker ;)You own a home now...Common law will entitle her to half of it. Take your heart out of the equation an use your brain for this one.
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That's deep Claudio, lol.
Next time I know who to go to for relationship advice :D
 
I'm going to go against the grain here and just say that my ex-b/f and I get along way, way, way better now as friends than we did as b/f-g/f. We were together for over three years. I'm glad we've remained friends. We share the same interests and can fun together without that f-ed up dimension of a relationship. So yes, an amicable breakup is absolutely possible.
 
rafiki911 said:
lmao Chicken Deli on Mount Pleasant.... Watch out though I heard these cougars are aggressive.

To the OP your doing the right thing by breaking up with her cause you don't see a future with her. Nothing worse than a dude than just sticks around till something better shows up. Do the right thing and cut her out, keeping her around is the worst thing possible. Trust me.
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I thought that place was closed down? Perhaps just renos... Use to live at Egg and MtP, went there a few good times with the wife, great bar :)

stormcat said:
I'm going to go against the grain here and just say that my ex-b/f and I get along way, way, way better now as friends than we did as b/f-g/f. We were together for over three years. I'm glad we've remained friends. We share the same interests and can fun together without that f-ed up dimension of a relationship. So yes, an amicable breakup is absolutely possible.
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+1. I was able to remain friends with a lot of my exs, although, it didn't happen right away. Gave myself some time, before seeing them again, did talk on the phone though during that period. We still talked and stuff, only hung out on occasions, but I never dared to reach for the bucket. After I met my wife, I believe that it was best that I break contact with them as they became more of an acquaintance.
 
RockerGuy said:
That's deep Claudio, lol.Next time I know who to go to for relationship advice :D
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Lol I'm in the process of getting rear ended, I know all to well about this stuff.Woman are only as faithful as there options. Sry ladies.
 
I would never stay "friends" with an ex, too many issues, thats why it's never a good idea to date within your circle of friends. I pride myself on not having a single jealous bone in my body I consider it a major weakness in human nature, but there's always an element of "wierdness" when doing the single thing around an ex. If it was a serious relationship there will always be a certain connection there, beyond the level of simple "friends", that you may have once shared it's hard to put that behind you I find. You don't want to fall into one of those constant break up and get together situations, sometimes its best to move on.
 
TomC said:
well what i mean by drifting - unmotivated, unambitious, lazy, doesn't see any reason to change.
...but I find that having 'love' for someone requires a certain amount of respect.
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Would you accept these things in her b/c you're no longer in a romantic relationship?
At first glance, using these words to describe her makes it sound like it's not worth it.
 
x86ect said:
Would you accept these things in her b/c you're no longer in a romantic relationship?
At first glance, using these words to describe her makes it sound like it's not worth it.
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not really no, qualities i look for in GOOD friends, so at the very most i think we'll end up as acquaintances (ie, facebook friend).

she is awfully good at gardening, and painting, which is why the help is tempting
 
When my ex and I broke up 4 years ago, we saw each other once or twice in the following months and spoke maybe once after that.... Fast forward 4 years and now we text/chat regularly as friends. She's got a boyfriend that's absolutely perfect for her and I couldn't be happier for her.
 
lol @ Strictlye, that thread was classic. Best post was Reciprocity's "Group Buy" suggestion. :)
 
It's much easier being friends with a girl you're not attracted to. Lately I've been doing the girl thing and putting chicks that are clearly into me but I'm not interesting in banging them in the friend zone. It's friggin great!!! When I'm bored I call em up, we hang out, no games, no bs, cause we're JUST FRIENDS. Maybe they're partially hanging out with me cause they're hoping "something" is going to happen, but what do I care? I'm out having fun! Plus, I've bult a couple very legit friendships this way. I can see why so many girls do this to guys! lol

With an ex, clearly you're physically attracted to her since you've hit it before. Much more complicated....I don't do it. :p
 
Roasted said:
It's much easier being friends with a girl you're not attracted to. Lately I've been doing the girl thing and putting chicks that are clearly into me but I'm not interesting in banging them in the friend zone. It's friggin great!!! When I'm bored I call em up, we hang out, no games, no bs, cause we're JUST FRIENDS. Maybe they're partially hanging out with me cause they're hoping "something" is going to happen, but what do I care? I'm out having fun! Plus, I've bult a couple very legit friendships this way. I can see why so many girls do this to guys! lol
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You're a vag-tease.
 
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