I kinda understand the fear of telling someone u love about your "innie" used to be your "outie", but personally a person who says they love me would never have started the relationship lying to me. What if I started the relationship with the intention of someday starting a family with her, clearly now with her that's not happening. Now before you say "well you know you can adopt" let me explain something, I am a fully functional male and my first kid is going to have my DNA. I understand adopting can help children in need, but this is my belief and I'm entitled to it.