Her Diary / His Diary

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OpenGambit said:
Guy has problem, guy does **** to piss off girl, guy how has 2 problems.

Guy could have solved problem with one sentence = stupid guy.
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This.

I've been married 25 years. Only problems we really have with communications is when I'm having a problem and clam up too much. I brood a bit then open up after a while and it works out. If I was better at expressing myself when cranked up over something, the period of tension would be less.
 
Griffin said:
This.

I've been married 25 years. Only problems we really have with communications is when I'm having a problem and clam up too much. I brood a bit then open up after a while and it works out. If I was better at expressing myself when cranked up over something, the period of tension would be less.
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Totally - same here. I am getting better at just letting it out sooner than later and it works wonders
 
mongol777 said:
my wife is smart and intelligent and she has much more common sense than I do. She can be wrong too and I could be in the right but it is much better to just talk it over and you always have ace in your pocket (you r right, I am wrong and I am sorry).
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I'm beginning to see why Jinni wants to give you husband of the year award. Your wife is a lucky lady.

Griffin said:
This.

I've been married 25 years. Only problems we really have with communications is when I'm having a problem and clam up too much. I brood a bit then open up after a while and it works out. If I was better at expressing myself when cranked up over something, the period of tension would be less.
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and have you expressed this to her? lol! :D (just being a smart a**)
 
WestEndBikeGirl said:
I'm beginning to see why Jinni wants to give you husband of the year award. Your wife is a lucky lady.
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Now you made me blush :D I just do realize how much pain in a** I am and trying to do everything to make her happy. She is trying to make me happy - I think it is all about right give and take in any relationship.
 
Communication in a relationship quickly becomes a matter of habit so i think its important to make an effort to have good lines of communication right from the start and work on clearing up miscommunications early on so that you can understand what each of you needs or expects in communicating. If that doesnt happen then lack of communication and misunderstandings can often lead to dissolution. I also think that the effort that two people put in being open with each other often has to do with the degree of mutual respect the two people have for each other which is what creates that desire to want to be open and candid. It definitely takes give and take on both sides. The worst thing about it not being there is the distance it creates between you. Strong communication results in a greater intimacy then any physical contact could ever create.
 
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Griffin said:
I've been married 25 years. Only problems we really have with communications is when I'm having a problem and clam up too much. I brood a bit then open up after a while and it works out. If I was better at expressing myself when cranked up over something, the period of tension would be less.
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I agree... Sometimes a little "brooding" while waiting for your emotions to settle makes for better communication in the long run. In my personal experience, nothing good is ever accomplish when communicating while my thoughts are clouded by raw emotions.
 
ATTS said:
ALL WOMEN are crazy, they are just at a different level for each one
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This is actaully untrue. They aren't crazy, they simply haven't a clue as to what they want. Which makes our lives difficult because even if we could read minds, we still couldn't give them what they want.

WestEndBikeGirl said:
Strong communication results in a greater intimacy then any physical contact could ever create.
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Umm, no.

Would you rather someone tell you they love you, or give you a hug?
Would you rather see your significant other talking to another girl, or shagging one?
 
Renboy said:
Umm, no.

Would you rather someone tell you they love you, or give you a hug?
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Ok fine but I think both forms of expression are important. Either one without the other is problematic imo.
 
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Renboy said:
This is actaully untrue. They aren't crazy, they simply haven't a clue as to what they want. Which makes our lives difficult because even if we could read minds, we still couldn't give them what they want.
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On the contrary, my wife is very sure of what she wants. I have no problem not only giving her what she wants, but what she needs. :D
 
WestEndBikeGirl said:
Ok fine but I think both forms of expression are important. Either one without the other is problematic imo.
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Don't get me wrong, we need communication, but nothing tops physical contact. All I was saying is that too much emphasis is put on communication. There's nothing worse then someone constantly asking 'what's wrong?' when you're trying to fix something, or figure it out. Khalim Gibran said it best:
You talk when you cease to be at peace with your thoughts; And when you can no longer dwell in the solitude of your heart you live in your lips, and sound is a diversion and a pastime.

Griffin said:
On the contrary, my wife is very sure of what she wants. I have no problem not only giving her what she wants, but what she needs. :D
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Wait a second, am I reading between the lines or did you just admit that your wife IS crazy, BUT knows what she wants?

Side note, I'm thinking there's a lot of guys that are lying to impress our female croud. Girls, has anyone of you received a PM from any of the guys saying, "I'm happily married, want to go for ice cream and coffee?":agave:
 
ATTS said:
ALL WOMEN are crazy, they are just at a different level for each one, just like all guys are aholes just at different levels.
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My wife wouldn't go that far (I hope...), her thinking is more along the lines of Geoge Carlin:
 
Renboy said:
Side note, I'm thinking there's a lot of guys that are lying to impress our female croud. Girls, has anyone of you received a PM from any of the guys saying, "I'm happily married, want to go for ice cream and coffee?":agave:
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Either that or their wives are a part of the female crowd and reading their posts ? lol. Lmao @ the George Carlin link.
 
Renboy said:
Wait a second, am I reading between the lines or did you just admit that your wife IS crazy, BUT knows what she wants?

Side note, I'm thinking there's a lot of guys that are lying to impress our female croud. Girls, has anyone of you received a PM from any of the guys saying, "I'm happily married, want to go for ice cream and coffee?":agave:
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She married me - she's a raving lunatic. (That was clever of you, I admit).

And I pm'd every member of GTAM with the ice cream and coffee offer. I wanted to improve my chances.

Btw, I did find the initial joke hilarious.
 
I can only imagine the wife listening to him being "i dont know why my motorcyle isnt starting" and her being "hmmm, kay? so?! I DONT CARE, get over it"

Heartless beings :sad1:
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