I think the problem is that housing has become an investment for a lot of people, and also a way to make big money very quickly.
I've been very fortunate in my life when it comes to real estate, bought an investment property with my parents and held it for over a decade. Monthly we made maybe $200-300 after all expenses (if that as lots of months were red, but the year was always black), but when we sold I had enough equity (from the 50/50 split) to dump a large portion into our next house down payment. Sold our condo townhouse, as it went from 420-535k within a span of 2 years. More money for down payment.
Our current house was just shy of a million, but we can afford it because of the previous 2 moves. I was fortunate, a lot of others aren't. If we wanted to live outside of the GTA, we could've bought a house cash, and be done with a mortgage.
As for monthly affordability. I accounted for everything, except daycare. Watching the savings accounts go down month to month slightly because of the $1200/month bill hurts. But it's an investment in the kid, and once he's done daycare in August. I've got 1 year to put away for the next one so I'll do half of daycare each month. So the monthly is lower after that. I have the money for it separately, but I'm stubborn and want to maintain that account amount as long as I can.
Personally I think renting should not be frowned upon like it is currently and that home ownership is the end all be all. Out of my friends, there is one renter that has accepted the fact he'll never rent, but is happy living downtown for the rest of his life. The rest are all owners. And each has made massive sacrifices to get there, but we were all raised with the mentality of 'home good, rent bad' which is the wrong mentality in the new reality of our economy.
It's a tough pill to swallow. I personally didn't want to sell the investment property, but we had no choice as the banks saw a positive cash flow and rental units as a liability (what if all the tenants stop paying at once? - unlikely but possible). If I won LOTTO tonight, I'd be buying back my old property within a week. If I won 50M I'd buy all the buildings on that lot and retire on the residual income.
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@george__ I'll always recommend the route of contract work on a remote site. Big money, fast money, but you need to have a clear exit strategy. I loved my FIFO job, and it sucked being away from the family. We committed with my wife to try it for 2 years. I left the site after 28 months. Could probably milk it much longer, but I'd be divorced at the end of it with a very large alimony payment. Plus now I get to hear the screaming from toddlers first hand. I never did tell her I slept 100x better on site than I do at home. lol.