That's totally fair. I didn't even consider the triple for the longest time because I didn't like the headlights either. My previous bike was a gen 3 SV650 and I was always of the opinion a "proper" motorbike should have a round headlight. Somehow it just grew on me though.
I'm surprised you found the triple jumpy. I never rode the XSR but compared to my SV650 the throttle feels light years ahead. Then again, I'm sure most bikes are more refined than my SV650 was....
At the end of the day I think they are both objectively very good bikes. Go with your heart and what you'd be more excited to see when you walk out into your garage. Only you can make that decision for yourself.
