I get that now, but wait for it, the pendulum will eventually swing back and of course past centre where it once was. As it stands now I would advise against marriage. But I would advise against having kids too.
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I get that now, but wait for it, the pendulum will eventually swing back and of course past centre where it once was. As it stands now I would advise against marriage. But I would advise against having kids too.
ashkan
Banned
Completely agree. The issue is, if all men stay quite and just wait for the pendulum to come back to centre, it wont. Much like women had to fight for their rights, now men too must stand up. If for nothing else, for their right to equal child custody.
Actually I'm surprised how quiet men have stayed. I remember years ago first hearing about mens support groups and thinking that was super whimpy. Now I wonder. Like I said, some of the stories I've heard personally, witnessed friends scenarios and my own first hand experiences plus the usual media coverage I don't know how more men don't just snap. Or even the daily burden of living on the bubble.
Riceburner
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because the culture says "Take it like a man."
It is more common for men to get 50% nowadays, though it requires a deep pocket book and an iron will. It would help if the 40% rule were abolished. A primer for those who haven't stared this in the face:
If the access split with 2 kids is 50/50 each party's income is included in the child support calc. So if they both earn 50k there is no payment either way. If, on the other hand, she gets the children more than 40% of the time (the usual alternate weekend and every Wednesday arrangement for example) then she gets $8,916 tax free from him per year (i.e. from his after tax income--thus reducing his gross income to maybe 38k). It is a strict cut-off, no sliding scale. Hence the financial incentive to limit the father's access. The cost differential is minute: he still has to pay for bedrooms, clothes, holidays, toys, etc. He saves slightly on food.
LOL, that entire paragraph was actually me trolling for a laugh, cheer up
ashkan
Banned
Well i could be wrong but according to the stats i saw on the government's website (.gc.ca), 86.7% of exclusive custodies were granted to mothres. Meaniing the child lives exclusively with the mother and the father gets to see the chid only every other weekend.
To add insult to injury, a very common practice by some mothers is to disappear or not allow the father to even see the child even every other weekend if they feel like it and there isnt much a man can do except for lawyer up which is impossible if you want to do that on a bi-weekly basis. This is why there was talk recently on holding women accountbale to allowing fathers to see their children during the allocated times.
All of what i said is also parallel to every story ive heard and every father that ive taled to (alomst every father).
Ha! And that is why I avoid the Romper Room. I turn into a belligerent teenager in about 2 posts flat.
Riceburner
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Exactly. Men may get 50%, but still pay more than half in the end....
Riceburner
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Even when 50/50 it's not. She'll complain she didn't get exactly the same # of days one year, nevermind it will go the other way the next year. Then b1tch when she didn't swap the kids off on time and he wants compensated time.
ashkan
Banned
What i dont nunderstand is this, IF we are equal and we should have equal pay and equal everything else, then why do women get the child custody? Either men and woemen are different or the same. Equality is a double edged sword but it seems like women only want equality when its in their favour and when they have to give something up in the name of equality, then they become a different gender who has special needs!!!! So much hypocricy!
ashkan
Banned
Or fight to make it better. If people didnt fight, we would still have slavery, child brides, witch hunts, killing homosexuals and ... civilization requires constant course correction IMO
Riceburner
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Just saying people will always be unfair to each other whether deliberately or blind bias, legislate all you want. Of course we have to keep fighting. Do you see an end in sight? Take care of your own house.
Because it is usually the woman who stays home with the child and is the primary caregiver. The courts understandably do not want to disrupt the child's life more than necessary. However, this thinking really only applies to young kids. I would say that form the age of 10 (at most) shared access is fair and beneficial. If you want a divorce, plan a year or two ahead. Do everything you can with the kids and spend as much time with them as possible. The judge may be swayed. The truth is that a lot of Dads don't want to do this. That's fine, it is tough to sweat and stress all day at work and then be Superdad in your limited free time. But you pay for your freedom.
ashkan
Banned
Men in the Media:
A 2014 Retrospective of Men's Issues
The following is CAFE's Top 10 list of men's issues stories from 2014 compiled from your recommendations. Thank you to everyone who participated.
The Good
1. Finally some attention on female sex offenders
How the treatment of female teachers who sexually exploit male students reflects society's legal and cultural double standards
2. The city of Abbotsford, British Columbia, reverses policy and opens housing for homeless men after prior rejection, declaring "You have a right to housing first."
3. The opening of the Canadian Centre for Men and Families sparked a lively debate on men's health and welfare, including some excellent supporting editorials:
Rosemary Westwood: Giving Men's Rights Centres a Chance
"That's why the city - and country - needs a men's centre."
4. We've started to see some increasing media focus on the higher rates of murdered and missing aboriginal men, although much public consciousness-raising remains.
The Bad
5. Boka Haram made worldwide headlines for months as a result of the heinous kidnapping of 215 school girls who's fate was left in the balance. Little was made of the Boko Haram slaughter, burning alive through gender selection of young school boys only months earlier. Similarly, there was little emphasis on gender in ISIS's sex-selective be-headings: "Starting with a 13-year old boy, they lined up the sons according to height and beheaded them in that order."
6. Elizabeth Sheehy is a law professor at the University of Ottawa. She published a book "Defending Battered Women on Trial". The book is dedicated to explaining why it is a legal right for women to murder their male partners. Of course it would be a life sentence in prison for men to murder their female partner.
7. Affirmative action has been the order of the day in public hiring when women are absent or simply under represented in a job category. In 2014 it came to our attention that all the youth workers and social workers at the Toronto District School Board are women. There is not one male social worker or youth worker nor an affirmative action plan to move men into those roles.
8. When Nick Olivas was 14 he was raped by a 20 year old woman. 10 years later Arizona state sought him out (which is how he found he had a daughter), and assessed him $15,000 in back support payments which the courts enforced.
9. The whole Dalhousie dentistry scandal was full of quick to judge reactions and unjustified punishment.
Dalhousie dentistry student suspended for Facebook posts he didn't even see: lawyer
10. Heather Mallick: Men's Rights Groups a Waste of Time
A 2014 Retrospective of Men's Issues
The following is CAFE's Top 10 list of men's issues stories from 2014 compiled from your recommendations. Thank you to everyone who participated.
The Good
1. Finally some attention on female sex offenders
How the treatment of female teachers who sexually exploit male students reflects society's legal and cultural double standards
2. The city of Abbotsford, British Columbia, reverses policy and opens housing for homeless men after prior rejection, declaring "You have a right to housing first."
3. The opening of the Canadian Centre for Men and Families sparked a lively debate on men's health and welfare, including some excellent supporting editorials:
Rosemary Westwood: Giving Men's Rights Centres a Chance
"That's why the city - and country - needs a men's centre."
4. We've started to see some increasing media focus on the higher rates of murdered and missing aboriginal men, although much public consciousness-raising remains.
The Bad
5. Boka Haram made worldwide headlines for months as a result of the heinous kidnapping of 215 school girls who's fate was left in the balance. Little was made of the Boko Haram slaughter, burning alive through gender selection of young school boys only months earlier. Similarly, there was little emphasis on gender in ISIS's sex-selective be-headings: "Starting with a 13-year old boy, they lined up the sons according to height and beheaded them in that order."
6. Elizabeth Sheehy is a law professor at the University of Ottawa. She published a book "Defending Battered Women on Trial". The book is dedicated to explaining why it is a legal right for women to murder their male partners. Of course it would be a life sentence in prison for men to murder their female partner.
7. Affirmative action has been the order of the day in public hiring when women are absent or simply under represented in a job category. In 2014 it came to our attention that all the youth workers and social workers at the Toronto District School Board are women. There is not one male social worker or youth worker nor an affirmative action plan to move men into those roles.
8. When Nick Olivas was 14 he was raped by a 20 year old woman. 10 years later Arizona state sought him out (which is how he found he had a daughter), and assessed him $15,000 in back support payments which the courts enforced.
9. The whole Dalhousie dentistry scandal was full of quick to judge reactions and unjustified punishment.
Dalhousie dentistry student suspended for Facebook posts he didn't even see: lawyer
10. Heather Mallick: Men's Rights Groups a Waste of Time
DECIMIS
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#evolution #survivalofthefittest #naturalselection
You missed #feelings
It's always the mans fault. You get your little pee pee touched you think you are in love, she takes control and you think it's normal cause all your friends are whipped , you think it's normal. You put up with her crap because you are told relationships are all compromise. You don't get your d?ck sucked and you think it's normal...You get married cause you think it's the thing to do and everyone tells you no one is perfect and you should compromise....you have kids to "bring you closer together" but it doesn't.
you live a miserable life and or get divorced ( before that day she gets fit and more attractive getting ready to f#ck the guys she really wants)
you wonder what happened as you pay for her to live a better life than you and take random d!ck.
the lesson is most guys compromise too much, get married too early to the wrong person and turn into a beech.
dont be that guy, wait for an awesome chick when you are at least 30 and ride off into the sunset with ,sex,fun,BJ's ,freedom, mutual respect,love and a ficking awesome life...or if that doesn't happen stay single and enjoy your life. It's only going to happen once and you will die before you think.
im celebrating 12 years of marriage this weekend and I can't get enough of the beech
you live a miserable life and or get divorced ( before that day she gets fit and more attractive getting ready to f#ck the guys she really wants)
you wonder what happened as you pay for her to live a better life than you and take random d!ck.
the lesson is most guys compromise too much, get married too early to the wrong person and turn into a beech.
dont be that guy, wait for an awesome chick when you are at least 30 and ride off into the sunset with ,sex,fun,BJ's ,freedom, mutual respect,love and a ficking awesome life...or if that doesn't happen stay single and enjoy your life. It's only going to happen once and you will die before you think.
im celebrating 12 years of marriage this weekend and I can't get enough of the beech
