Mad Mike
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Good observations and advice. Another tip is to identify yourself as a Canadian. Sounds silly, but my experience is you’re not looked upon as a Yank.Different strokes, etc. For me, if I never set foot on a beach again, I'd be perfectly happy. Bloody sand gets everywhere...
Tourist hotspots in Europe (Paris, Barcelona, Prague, Amsterdam, etc.) generally struggle with the stuff you describe. We've never had an issue, though. We follow Rick Steves' advice on moneybelts etc (met him in Rome, incidentally, and he was a total sweetheart, identical to his public persona), so are never stressed about watching our backs. Worst case, you lose a few spare Euros, no biggie. And cabbies in Rome are famously honest and reliable, assuming you stick to the licensed white ones.
One thing I found makes a huge difference, though, is not expecting a North American service culture. Wait staff, shop clerks, etc. treat their jobs as professions, but also have a lot of pride bordering on arrogance. If you treat them as an equal, you will get friendly help and a good chat. If you treat them as there simply to serve you, you will get rudeness and worse.
For anyone considering a visit, here's a couple tips (apologies for the length!)...
One example: it's considered extremely rude to walk into a shop, ignore the clerk, and then just ask directly about an item or price. The expectation is that you greet them politely when entering, and ask if it's okay to look around. Only then do you start perusing the wares.
Another example is in a restaurant (assuming you do the smart thing and avoid the crap near the attractions with multi-language picture menus), ask about their food. Ask what's fresh, what is typical for the region, and what they are most proud of or do best. Try to have a conversation, don't just place an order. In places that care about their food, you'll start a fun and playful back and forth with the wait staff that becomes much more about them wanting to show off their best and impress. You'll get the tastiest stuff, which is usually off menu. There's lots of unwritten rules around food in Italian culture, but showing that you care to try to follow them makes a world of difference.
And, obviously, as with anywhere, attempts to speak the language, no matter how poorly, establish an equal footing that helps any interaction. Always start in the local language, and then ask I'd they speak English. Assuming they will speak English to you suggests that despite being a visitor, you expect them to operate at your leisure. Even if you end up back in English, it's their choice, not yours, to be there.
A lot of the above applies in France and Spain, too...
Travellers get seasoned with time. They either learn out how to deal with safety & service challenges, or learn to seek out destinations that don’t have them.
As I head toward retirement I don’t want to work too hard when travelling. I choose destinations that are safe and service first. The world has plenty of both.