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Tired of my racist, narcissistic, misogynist coworker

JZ67 said:
Thanks to all that responded. I have come to the same conclusions as all noted above and have considered looking for another path or stress leave for many years.

When I do break it down, I enjoy what I do and I am very well respected in the industry. I feel this respect mostly within my customer base and a lot less than with my employer. Although respect is one of the companies core values that has on more than one occasion breached with me personally.

I have brought up some of the lack of respect and integrity with our HR department. Fortunately the VP of HR embodies all those great qualities that world class companies look for and is able to compartmentalize matters and deal with each situation professionally.

Maybe it's fear, maybe it's complacency, maybe it's comfort. I just can't seem to make a change. If I could rewind time, I would have gone into the trades...maybe it's not too late.
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The first highlight will actually help you very very much in getting a career that's beyond where you currently are. People like working with people, and they will always recommend people that they like, and enjoy working with.

My first job in my industry was through a fluke job interview in 2007. Since then, each job has been through contacts to this day. It's important.

Fear is the number 1 reason people don't change jobs and careers. I was afraid when our company got bought and closed down, turns out it was one of the best things to happen to me as it opened up a whole lot of doors.

Start talking to people and seeing what's out there. My buddy was tired of his job, asked a contact at a supplier whether he knows of any opportunities.

Went from 105k/year to 200k/year working full 100% WFH for a US company and is loving it. (EDIT)…for the supplier.
 
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It real boils down to two choices.
1.Fight to stay
2.Leave
Sadly, in my experience #1 rarely works out to your benefit.
In my many years of working I have come up with this statement that (I feel) is the attitude of most companies towards employee behavior.
"Help those that hinder, hinder those that help"
This allows you one option, to leave. To be fair this should be very empowering to you.
Start networking, talk your collogues in other companies etc. The sooner you start the process the more employment options you'll have to consider. The thing to focus on is this is a positive step to leave a negative environment.
 
Mad Mike said:
In the first 20 years of my career, it was all about the money, I needed lots and made lots. Worked and played very hard.

I surprised a few people, including myself and made it to 40. I decided enough was enough and scaled way back, cut the stress, cut the travel, and let go of the play hard lifestyle. Earnings dropped by half, but surprisingly life got way better.

(There was a relapse later, but that's another story).

What I learned is yesterday, and the last 30 years, really mean nothing compared to a good day tomorrow.
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Very very wise words. I'm "only" 14 years in with my employer but i've understood that bending backwards only gets you very ephemeral appreciation. It's often not worth the repeated sacrifice (esp if the cost is your family life)
 
LePhillou said:
Very very wise words. I'm "only" 14 years in with my employer but i've understood that bending backwards only gets you very ephemeral appreciation. It's often not worth the repeated sacrifice (esp if the cost is your family life)
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Busting your ass to cover or make up for others isn't necessarily the best way to get appreciation (or promotions) - it gets you known as a good dog, a scratch behind the ears, and a pat on the head. Bosses like to retain hard dependable workers -- promoting them makes their job tougher.

You'll get noticed by doing things in line with the company's stated goals. Improve processes, find ways to reduce product or operating costs, do the somethings outlined in the company mission statement. Those are things you can take credit for and leverage, and so can your boss so the larger management should notice you. My favorite is volunteering for the dirty jobs nobody wants to do, I did this a lot in my youth, paid me back large.
 
LePhillou said:
Very very wise words. I'm "only" 14 years in with my employer but i've understood that bending backwards only gets you very ephemeral appreciation. It's often not worth the repeated sacrifice (esp if the cost is your family life)
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I never worked for more than 7 years for any employer. I get bored and need a change.
 
LePhillou said:
Well for me, changing roles in another department can feel like working for a completely different company.
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This 100%. I work for the gov't so we have so many different departments it's ridiculous. Each project is literally like a different company so I'm currently looking for progressive roles within this organization...just a different project (hopefully one closer to home).
 
Sick idea but what if every GTAM member wrote the company in question saying they heard a misogynist worker might be getting fired and what were the qualification needed for the job?
 
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