When I was younger, I dated a lot of Asian women.
A common pattern I noticed was:
- They were studying a questionable degree (if in university or college at all)
- They wanted to be taken care of
- They had zero sense of money management
- One particular women comes to mind. She said "a man should let me handle the money so I can buy us nice things."
- Some felt they were actually entitled to marry a man that'd take care of them and they could just sit at home
- Having expensive brand name **** mattered to them
This was kinda infuriating tbh. It got a bit worse later in life because I realized the trend wasn't specific to Asian women, it was applicable to every ethnicity.
Later on, I found myself failing my first degree and getting into credit card debt and this was probably one of the best things that happened to me. I ended up reading a bunch of books on investing and money management. Within a year, the CC debt was gone. Then started working on a software dev degree and reminded myself of my failure everyday for the first 2 years. I'd wake up every morning, look at myself in the mirror, and tell myself I'm a failure; succeed or die. Within the first year, I landed a job at a really popular open-source browser dev group.
Then I looked at the average household income in Toronto, Ontario, and Canada. I could easily beat those $s as a software developer, but you know what'd be better? Find a girl that was equal or smarter than me with strong pragmatic traits so we wouldn't just beat those numbers, we'd actually skew the numbers up. I ended up creating a set of interview questions, spent 4 months on "dates" interviewing women, and found my fiancee later.
Remember those investment books I mentioned? Everything I learned, from both failures and reading, came into play now. It's been 5 years. She is amazing at saving money, but very bad at what to do with the **** tons of cash she sat on; we've doubled it now.
Point of this story aside from showboating and bragging? Life sucks, for everyone. Survey your situation, take stock of what is actually possible, figure out what it is that you don't know, and do something about it.....I notice most don't actually do this regardless of age or ethnicity.
I've also told this story to fellow junior developers. Many of them end up reading about investing immediately after; teach a man to fish and they'll never be hungry! Sometimes, they might even teach you a new trick or two as well!
P.S. It's worth noting some of those "marry rich" women did actually marry rich. But for the vast majority that failed, I'm psychopathically enjoying their Facebook rants about how it's so hard to find a decent guy =)
