Only 50% of men would dump a chick if she got fat.

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honduhmatic said:
I think you've put it in the best possible light that you can.

Relationships require maintenance, and keeping in relative shape is part of that - just like dressing up occasionally, sharing feelings, date nights every so often, etc.

I know lots of guys who get in ____ for getting a spare tire or dressing like slobs into the 'comfort' stage of a relationship. It works both ways.
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Ijaz said:
I don't think it has to do with just a bit of weight gain. A lot of people, men and women included, look their best and try hard before getting into a relationship/marriage. It is understandable and reasonable to let oneself go a bit after finding the right partner.

But I have seen more often than not. That people just stop trying. I equate that to laziness or neglect. If they are lazy or neglectful about their body. What else are they being lazy/neglectful about?

Weight gain because of laziness or neglect = ending a relationship for me (again, I am not talking a few pounds here and there). Other medical factors and old age are excusable.
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I guess it varies from person to person but my reasons for working out don't really revolve around scoring chicks. Being in better shape, dropping 50lbs so far this year, does make me look better and i suppose it'd help me pick up chicks.. but that's really just a happy side effect.

Ultimately my fitness revolves around competition. The better shape i am in the better i can handle a Superbike, I've also got into duathlons and competitive running and cycling this year. My running still isn't great but I'm pretty strong on a bike, it's just in my nature that if i'm going to do something I'm going to try pretty hard at it. That's just my competitive spirit, it doesn't really have much to do with impressing women.

I have pretty strange standards when it comes to women... I fully accept that that contributes to why I'm single most of the time. The qualities i look for are pretty rare. Not very many women are as athletic, competitive or strong willed as i hope them to be.
 
caboose483 said:
I guess it varies from person to person but my reasons for working out don't really revolve around scoring chicks. Being in better shape, dropping 50lbs so far this year, does make me look better and i suppose it'd help me pick up chicks.. but that's really just a happy side effect.

Ultimately my fitness revolves around competition. The better shape i am in the better i can handle a Superbike, I've also got into duathlons and competitive running and cycling this year. My running still isn't great but I'm pretty strong on a bike, it's just in my nature that if i'm going to do something I'm going to try pretty hard at it. That's just my competitive spirit, it doesn't really have much to do with impressing women.
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If the motivation to constantly better yourself, whether it's gym, finances, psychologically, or hell, even lap times ;) comes from within than you tend to stick with it. If it's external, like doing it for women, than those external factors come and go and those types of people always fall off the wagon sooner or later. These are the same people that buy bikes to pick up chicks and sell them 6 months later cause they're bored of them. Good for you BTW man, I'm the same way. :)
 
Roasted said:
THat's where the mother test comes in. You look at the mom. If the mom is fat and ugly she's not marriage material. ;)
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LOL
Reading this I think of the movie 'the heartbreak kid' with Ben Stiller.

As for the main subject, I agree with trying to maintain yourself at least not to become 'obese', now I am guilty of not maintaing myself in previous relationships and slightly in the one I am in now. This year I have come to the realization that yes 'looks' play a role as does health more importantly, and I want to be around long enough to celebrate a 50th wedding anniversary and more....so I have started to workout at least 3 times a week and eat healthier than before, small steps but for a lifetime of change.
 
Roasted said:
If the motivation to constantly better yourself, whether it's gym, finances, psychologically, or hell, even lap times ;) comes from within than you tend to stick with it. If it's external, like doing it for women, than those external factors come and go and those types of people always fall off the wagon sooner or later. These are the same people that buy bikes to pick up chicks and sell them 6 months later cause they're bored of them. Good for you BTW man, I'm the same way. :)
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I was about to say... it's different if you enjoy working out, or would do it anyway.

My point is that letting yourself go can be interpreted a lot like being a slob at home, not taking 'couple time' out, or not communicating with your spouse. Thes things are are all symptoms of 'mailing it in' in a relationship, and not making the other person and the relationship a priority.
 
Roasted said:
If the motivation to constantly better yourself, whether it's gym, finances, psychologically, or hell, even lap times ;) comes from within than you tend to stick with it. If it's external, like doing it for women, than those external factors come and go and those types of people always fall off the wagon sooner or later. These are the same people that buy bikes to pick up chicks and sell them 6 months later cause they're bored of them. Good for you BTW man, I'm the same way. :)
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honduhmatic said:
I was about to say... it's different if you enjoy working out, or would do it anyway.

My point is that letting yourself go can be interpreted a lot like being a slob at home, not taking 'couple time' out, or not communicating with your spouse. Thes things are are all symptoms of 'mailing it in' in a relationship, and not making the other person and the relationship a priority.
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Good points!

Finding someone to share that stuff with has been a pretty unexpected surprise too. Not many people make me feel lazy but I found someone that does, it's a lot easier to stay in shape when you can go on a date that includes a 35km ride followed by a 5km run.
 
I think that to find true happiness, you need to sell your road or tri bike and buy a mountain bike instead :p

Anyways, I've found a strong, ambitious lady who makes me happy. They're out there.
 
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