Sorry to hear about your pain johnny. But I can relate. I am 31 now but had surgery in may of 2009, had my L4-L5 shaved down a bit.
Let me tell you from experience to try all conservative methods first before you jump to surgery.
I had severe crippling back pain for years before this surgery, at least 5 years. I tried everything twice.
Physio, which I did anyway because of going to the gym for the past 15 years lol, accupuncture (did nothing for me)
Injections (also did nothing) spinal decompression (absolutely nothing lol)
Pain killers and anti inflamms didnt even touch it.
I went from times throughout the years being bed ridden and then getting better to just walking with a small limp.
So it does get better over time but never where you were.
The key is to get a good doctor. Your family dr doesn't know jack about these problems so seeing a specialist is key.
Lucky for me I did research and found a great doctor down on bay st. He is head doctor for the team canada juniors and he referred me to a ortho surgeon.
My first visit with surgeon I opted not for surgery and he did too as I was still walking and able to work at 70% (i'm and electrician) but the constant groin pain and toe and leg pain was unbearable. I told him I would be back if I couldn't walk anymore lol. Well not even 6 months after visiting him I was in excruciating pain, sleeping 2hrs a night on my knees at the edge of a chair and dragging my leg everywhere with me. Had to take time off of work and I really didnt get better after 3 months. Its unbearable on both body and mind so I feel you.
So I saw ortho again and agreed to surgery since i had signs of nerve damage and couldn't lift my leg off the floor lol.
I waited two more months and finally got the surgery. He guaranteed to get rid of my leg pain but couldn't guarantee the back pain would go away. At the time the leg pain was worse so I didn't care.
Let me tell you it was 1hr and a half surgery and I walked out of there the same day feeling so much greater. What I would do to get back those 5 years of suffering.
Anyway, last year I got my m2 and now ride a ninja 250r and having a blast riding and having my life back.
One thing to realize, there are ups and downs to surgery being you will never be 100% anymore but can be close to it.
I feel great and would do it again.
Keep your head up and hope everything works out for you.
Also don't listen to others that just can't relate to you because they don't have the same problem as you, they end up putting you down more than anything and telling you its all in your head. Don't listen
Hope you get better soon, and yes you will ride again!
Try the most least invasive surgery first, if the first thing your specialist says is fusion, go get another opinion

Cheers