Girlfriend doesn't like motorcycles

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Please tell me your definition of a rolling burnout...

lol, I know what a rolling burn out technically is...but for me, it's any time someone's rear tire starts smoking up while moving =P...even if it's because somebody poured gasoline on it and set it on fire.

 

[nearace]

get rid of the girl,keep the bike and be happy.

 

[sonnythebull]

Sorry, but this is 2013, and that would be considered "abusive".
Watch TV ads...in 2013 they are all the same, hottie smartass wife married to a chubby dumbass husband, and she tells him how to do things. When men did this in the 50-70s, it was branded sexists (because it was), now in gender reversal, it's somehow ok.

Back to original post: if someone is in a relationship with you and feels the need to manipulate your behaviour or activities, then they need to find someone else. Otherwise, they will do this all your life and its divorcetown.

True. Men in commercials are always doughy bumbling idiots made fun of by their wives and children.

 

[inreb]

Don't compromise yourself to please someone else.

That sounds right except to my mind a successful relationship consists of 2 people each giving more than 50 percent. I think one must want to please the other person. Best not to get into a relationship where one recognizes unexceptable personality traits right off the hop just to get laid.

 

[unL33T]

Pretty much everyone I know that rides has gfs that don't care for it. It's your own hobby. Not hers.

 

[HuKo]

Now the question is, lets say she some how found out about this thread and knew it was you... what would she do...ditch or stay..

 

[nfq]

Bottom line, if you're even asking this question, you already know the answer.

 

[brownelvis]

OP, there's some great wisdom in this thread, but given that you thought about it enough to ask the question, you probably already knew the answer. You just needed some help admitting it. In good relationships, you support your partner in their interests, even if its not your thing. So even if she truly is afraid or too physically uncomfortable to ride 2-up, she can still come watch you at a track day, buy you gear for your birthday, wish you a fun day when you go for a ride & meet you at a bar after, etc. And you should do the same for her. If its a problem now after 3 months, its only going to get worse. Time to cut & run!

You're right, some good wisdom for sure. So far girly is cool with my riding and is supportive, she just doesn't want to join, but it just gets tough, for example I did a tour to hit some twisty roads and stopped at some beaches and after she also wants to go to the beach, so I have to go to the same place and take a car this time and miss out on those twisties, not to mention the lost time which I'm very short on.

Overall I was mainly looking to see what others in similar situations do to deal with it, I'm obviously not going to ditch her based on some advice from a forum.

 

[Wasted]

You're right, some good wisdom for sure. So far girly is cool with my riding and is supportive, she just doesn't want to join, but it just gets tough, for example I did a tour to hit some twisty roads and stopped at some beaches and after she also wants to go to the beach, so I have to go to the same place and take a car this time and miss out on those twisties, not to mention the lost time which I'm very short on.

Overall I was mainly looking to see what others in similar situations do to deal with it, I'm obviously not going to ditch her based on some advice from a forum.

Really?? 'Cuz you made a poll lol

 

[RedDogDarren]

So what.
Who cares if she doesn't like riding, ride by yourself.
If she starts complaining about you riding then decide what you are going to do.

Bikes always handle better without passengers.

 

[Face]

So what.
Who cares if she doesn't like riding, ride by yourself.
If she starts complaining about you riding then decide what you are going to do.

Bikes always handle better without passengers.

Crank up the suspension, dial back the aggression a bit and you can still have a great time riding 2-up. Besides, there are other benefits, Lol.

My wife doesn't want her M licence or her own bike, but she has the gear and does enjoy 2-up rides. A couple weeks ago we did a 2-up ride to Bracebridge with a stop for lunch and a swim at Muskoka beach. Another rider showed up at the beach on his bike, his wife/gf arrived with the car. Point is, we each found a way to have a nice beach & riding day. Last year we did a holiday in Spain, which included renting an R1200RT and doing 8 days of 2-up riding through the Pyrenees. Best riding I've ever done: http://www.gtamotorcycle.com/vbforu...ona-through-the-Pyrenees-to-Pamplona-amp-back We're starting to talk about a riding holiday in Italy next year. This doesn't mean that she comes out every time. I still get spirited rides in with friends. Probably more than if my wife didn't "get it". But guaranteed that 20 years down the road, if your wife/gf doesn't at least take some interest in your riding, you're going to have done a lot less of it.

 

[brownelvis]

Really?? 'Cuz you made a poll lol

crap, I better do what the poll says

 

[Mongrel]

I'd say first you gotta figure out what kinda rider YOU are.

A great line I heard once was that some guys are motorbike riders and some guys ride motorbikes for a while. If you can figure out which one you are, then the girl question becomes a lot easier to figure out too.

 

[johnp]

I think most women don't like bikes and don't like riding on them.

Bikes are freaking dangerous.
Makes no sense to push someone you like into risking life because you want some company.

You want to ride, ride!

Does she force you to come with her to knitting classes?

 

[shootingrubber]

I think most women don't like bikes and don't like riding on them.

Bikes are freaking dangerous.
Makes no sense to push someone you like into risking life because you want some company.

You want to ride, ride!

Does she force you to come with her to knitting classes?

It's not that easy IMO. When you get into long term relationships both partners have to be supportive of each other's hobbies and interests. If both parties involved simply show no interest in their partners hobbies then the relationship won't last long. Your girlfriend doesn't have to ride motorcycles or go on the back with you, but if she gets mad or gives you the guilt trip or you feel bad every time you go out for a ride alone or with friends then that is not a good sign. On the contrary if you don't support her going to the spa or getting her nails or hair done or whatever it is she likes to do in her free time then that is also not a good sign.

 

[slowbird]

wow!

EDIT: In case some one in here doesn't get it, that's a sarcasm "Wow!"

I really LOL'd at this. Poet of the year.

Oh good, I'm not the only one who thought his post was ridiculous.

You're right, some good wisdom for sure. So far girly is cool with my riding and is supportive, she just doesn't want to join, but it just gets tough, for example I did a tour to hit some twisty roads and stopped at some beaches and after she also wants to go to the beach, so I have to go to the same place and take a car this time and miss out on those twisties, not to mention the lost time which I'm very short on.

So she is fine with you riding but doesn't want to join? ...and it bothers you that she doesn't want to travel by Motorcycle?

If she turns out to be a great girlfriend except for this one thing. (cause it's waaaaay too early to tell right now) then you need to sacrifice a little riding so you two can go places together.

I am always wishing my Fiancee could be with me when i'm out touring and riding around. Seeing the awesome views and places I see. At the same time though, it's my time and I'm glad that it's my own.
My fiancee knows I like riding and does nothing but miss me when I'm out on the bike.

However...if you cannot live with a companion that doesn't ride with you then don't waste anymore of her and your time and leave.

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