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Girlfriend doesn't like motorcycles

What should I do?

  • Ride it out with her for the summer

    Votes: 47 38.8%

  • Ditch & get a new GF

    Votes: 47 38.8%

  • Ditch & ride your bike more

    Votes: 27 22.3%
  • Total voters
    121
brownelvis

brownelvis

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In the past I've never come across a girl who doesn't like motorcycles, except now I'm dating one. I didn't think it would bother me that much but it's really starting to get to me.

She's got back/neck problems and is afraid to sit on the bike in case of a crash. On the other hand I spend a lot of time on the bike and love to tour in the summer. I don't expect her to come with me when I do 500+km days but it would be nice to take a day trip to the beach or something, she won't even get on to go around town. She lives in a suburb and uses her moms car, so if I visit her we're stuck at her place unless she gets the car.

Does anyone here have a gf/bf/partner/SO that doesn't like bikes? How do you manage? Or do you recommend I just ditch...
 
The question you should be asking yourself is are you willing to give up motorcycle riding for her? If no then you need realize down the road if there are kids, a house, and financial commitments, you may be stuck between a rock and a hard place.
 
^^^ Silence beat me to it! :)

Is she worth giving up riding completely for, because that's where this is most likely headed?
 
Perhaps its just a time management thing, maybe talk to her and work out some time to yourself just for touring without her?
 
silence said:
The question you should be asking yourself is are you willing to give up motorcycle riding for her? If no then you need realize down the road if there are kids, a house, and financial commitments, you may be stuck between a rock and a hard place.
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I never thought this far ahead but now I'm scared. Really scared.
 
kickstartt said:
Perhaps its just a time management thing, maybe talk to her and work out some time to yourself just for touring without her?
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She has no problem with me touring without her, but outside of work I just don't have a lot of spare time as it is.
 
If she doesn't want to ride then don't pressure her.

Just go ride on your own. If it really bothers you then break up.
 
It's called "working things out between the both of you"

Why are you posting this on GTAM??
 
My wife (married 20 years with two teen daughters) seldom if ever rides with me. I would like her to join me more but I don't worry about. Now if she said that I had to choose between riding and her....damn tough choice. Just remember cheaper to keep your bike and get a new girlfriend now than 20 years later with mortgage and child support...

Don't let anyone crush you passion for riding...
 
Riding was more important to me than the last 3 girls, and the one I would give it up for wouldn't ever ask me to. If she's worth it you'll find a way to make time for both and if she's not you'll know because you'll be stressing about spending time with her and what she's gonna say while you're out doing what you wanna do (riding) ;)

That said my gf also refuses to get on the bike with me
 
It's one thing if your SO has a problem with you riding a motorcycle, it's another thing entirely if you are expecting them to get on it with you...

It sounds like neither of you have reliable access to a car. It's fine to choose a bike as your primary mode of transportation (I have not owned a car for a while for various reasons) but you have to accept there are limitations to it. One of those limitations is definitely, it is not equivalent to a car in terms of taking passengers - some people will not be comfortable on a motorcycle, and they are in no way obligated to be.
 
The old lady wasn't scared to ride, she just didn't like how much time I spent on it, soooo I bought her a ninja 250, and now she wakes me up to go on the weekend. :) Motorcycles have been an obsession for me since I was 6. I ride street, trailride, race offroad, I'll ride a scooter, I don't give a crap! If it's got wheels, I wanna try it! If anyone tried to make me choose between my bikes and them, seeya, I'm going riding. It is good that she doesn't try to make you choose, but as time goes by, I'm betting she will. Eventually she will have other things she wants you to do on the weekends etc. If you like her, wait and see where things go, if she cares about you she will make room for your bikes/hobbies.
 
She will grow into it. If not and your passion is to ride then I guess shes not the one for you. Plus your only been with her for 3 mths. My wife didnt let me get a bike. I went to do my m1 and inside I know she was hopingbi would fail. But I didnt. Then she didnt want me to get a bike, after awhile with guilt trip I got one. Now she encourages me to ride on good days but when we go as a family I would have to take the car.

Good relationship needs each other to support each other.
 
All that means is that she is not ****ing crazy..

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