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Take her for a ride. Maybe she'll want to take up riding too?:dontknow:

Or tell her not to worry because you'll be riding so fast that the cars won't be able to catch up to you in the first place ;)
 
i guess it all depends on whether your mother truly loves and respects you in return.

at some point she's going to have to respect your decisions as an adult, and love you regardless. it's not like you're becoming a hardened criminal or leaving the country.

live your life.
 
This thread is jokes. How old are you people? 15?

I love my mom to, but I couldn't really give a flying F or not if she liked me riding. I'm a grown adult.

I guess I'm just really lucky that my mother isn't a helicopter mom. And the fact that she started riding when I moved out and my dad got a bike again.

But seriously. I really can't believe the responses in this thread.
 
matthew said:
Tell your mom to run her own life and to stay out of yours.
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Highflyer. Please disregard statements like the above. It's totally disrespectful! As a mother myself, I absolutely understand your mother's concerns. When I got my M2, my then 18 y.o. son asked if he could get his license also. I said "not as long as you live under my roof" :) In the end, as you say, it will be your decision. You have acknowledged that you love and respect your mom (I admire that). There really is nothing else you can do other than assure her you will do *your* very best to ride carefully and safely.
 
riding a bike will make you a better driver, better at traffic awareness. if you get hit its your fault, it a real game of frogger. u have the speed quickness and vision a car doesnt.
 
nakkers said:
Don't look for something you can't have. You're looking for your Mom to support you in a way she isn't capable right now so, don't try. She knows the effect of not supporting your hobby has on you. You have to learn to deal with that and decide how you want to move forward. Let it go. Ride.


Maybe she comes to terms with it, maybe she doesn't. Regardless, you will have to accept it's her choice to feel how she does about it. Move on.
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Best advice yet. I have been riding 36 years. My mother is 80 and she still is concerned about my safety on a bike.
 
I went through a similar experience as well. I knew that I wanted to start riding and since my family was extremely against it I just kept them informed of the process that I was going through...gear...course...small cc bike...etc. they're not happy about it but in the end my parents have gotten accustomed to me being on a bike. Its gotten to the point where mom asks how it's going if I'm planning going any longer trips, etc.

Its difficult but think of it this way of they didn't care they wouldn't worry.
 
There isn't much you can do at this point to change her mind. And I know that's tough, because I love my mother too, and I want her to support the decisions I make in my life. The best thing you can do is get the bike and ride it in a responsible way, and hope that the 'omg-danger' factor will wear off when your mom realizes that it's not a death trap on wheels (and if you have any minor mishaps, DON'T TELL HER).

Hell, my mom wasn't thrilled when I got my first motorcycle. But now she gives me $^&% when I talk about possibly selling it. She just thinks it's the coolest thing, and I'm sure if she were a few decades younger she'd take up motorcycling herself.
 
Step #1 sign up for rider training, once done tell your mother you have been trained professionally. Don't buy a bike yet, as..
Step #2 Your next action is to sign on for Superbike school https://secure.echoalley.com/superbikeschool/sign-up/
Looks like there are at least 4 levels to get through. After you graduate.....
Step #3 Order the DVD....http://www.stunterschool.com/
Step #4 Buy the bike, nothing you really care about, because you are still learning. Here's a good starter..
http://toronto.kijiji.ca/c-cars-veh...rt-bikes-1990-Suzuki-GSX-R-W0QQAdIdZ382893053 For not to much money.
Step #5 you have gone through the training, you have bought the bike, it's time to invite your mother for a perview of your skills. http://www.motorcycletrackdays.ca/showdetails.cgi?who=Cayuga When you know she is watching, hold the clutch in with bike in first or second depending on your bike, run to redline and let go of the clutch and impress here with at least 100 ft wheelie.

:D
 
i told the neibour the same thing. just buy the dam bike and let the parents deal with the shock. its not your problem. then again they had him around their finger with a free car.

No one can tell you how to spend your hard earned cash.
 
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imnothng said:
This thread is jokes. How old are you people? 15?

I love my mom to, but I couldn't really give a flying F or not if she liked me riding. I'm a grown adult.

I guess I'm just really lucky that my mother isn't a helicopter mom. And the fact that she started riding when I moved out and my dad got a bike again.

But seriously. I really can't believe the responses in this thread.
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It's a cultural thing...
 
My mom thought it was a phase when I learned to ride at 17. She figured I'd get over it. That was 23 years ago....

You only live once. Pull up your big boy panties guys and go for it.
 
imnothng said:
This thread is jokes. How old are you people? 15?

I love my mom to, but I couldn't really give a flying F or not if she liked me riding. I'm a grown adult.

I guess I'm just really lucky that my mother isn't a helicopter mom. And the fact that she started riding when I moved out and my dad got a bike again.

But seriously. I really can't believe the responses in this thread.
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To answer your question, almost 50! Without a doubt, I love my Mom too. Quite frankly, it's not about age. It's about *respect*. Yes, I'm a "grown adult" too, but I would never disrespect the woman who gave birth to me, and struggled to raise me. Sure, she's not happy about the fact that I ride a motorcycle. And because of that, and my own children, I try my very best to ride as carefully as possible. I'm not out to impress anyone and it's not about speed.
 
easier to ask for forgiveness then permission
 
my two cents worth...in the summer of 2010 i mentioned wanting to get my motorcycle license to my mom and siblings and they all freaked out...my mom even went so far as to say she would disown me if i went ahead with it...i didn't approach the subject again, went out bought a bike, took the m1 exit course, bought all the safety gear and started off riding just around the neighbourhood...now, whenever i go see my mom (who's 89 and lives in a nursing home) she is thrilled to see me on the bike...her face lights up and she's even gone so far as to ask me to take her for a ride (kind of hard to do considering she's in a wheelchair)!!!...go figure...so long story short, she will come around once she sees your passion and how safe you are with it...oh, btw, i'm 44 and been on my own since i was 25, but yes, i still respect her and want her approval...
 
Police OPP said:
Riding a motorcycle is a serious life decision. Your mother's concerns are warranted. You should always have a written will.
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True, but getting maimed (especially if you end up never being able to expel body waste into anything other than a colostomy bag) or a brain injury leaving you one protein cell north of a vegetable, is usually a far bigger deal. Well..for the rider anyway..In case you do happen to get that unlucky, consider a 'living' will with a DNR clause in it also.

To OP, I respect your sentiments regarding getting your mother's approval. It's simple respect, and if you have been blessed with good, non-abusive parents, then no matter how old we get, we're always their kids and they always deserve our respect enough to show them that their input in significant decisions like this are not quickly dismissed.

IMO though, riding anywhere near GTA increases your odds so much that every single ride that involves any type of intersection, you really are taking your life and putting it into some of the MOST incompetent hands behind steering wheels, there is. Your best defense to this, if GTA area (or any other built up city) is where you will often ride, is to be a very defensive (and know when to be aggressive also and get to hell away from certain jerks, as sometimes that is part of the survival-puzzle) rider/driver and be able to recognize the many extra scenarios of risk on two wheels vs 4. As an example, having any kind of confidence you've been seen by other road abusers is a big difference in that regard. If you have never been involved in a crash (at fault or not) and you have driven many years/miles in the GTA area under lots of conditions including especially slippery winter conditions, then you have a HUGE advantage at being able to stay outta trouble and the time and miles to build experience on the bike. That would suggest skills that improve your odds a lot.

If you are a quite skilled road user with lots of experience and have managed to stay out of trouble, you could still be unlucky though, and get taken out in the first intersection you encounter with a left-turner or T-boner.. It's all odds..
 
afong56 said:
i guess it all depends on whether your mother truly loves and respects you in return.

at some point she's going to have to respect your decisions as an adult, and love you regardless. it's not like you're becoming a hardened criminal or leaving the country.

live your life.
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Good points

There are all kinds of choices people make that can hurt. Some become video game zombies living on chips and diet cola. Some get in with the wrong music crowd and OD on coke. Some become welfare bums. Some become squids and get hurt. However if a person is responsible the odds aren't as bad as the media makes it look.

At some point mom has to recognize that she did a good job and junior is responsible enough to handle a bike. if she can't then she should buy him a guitar and some drugs.
 
Op if your mother was ok with you riding a bicycle on the streets of Toronto; how can she not be ok with a motorcycle? Ebikes and bicycles is a date with pending death. A motorcycle or scooter with a motor imho is hell of alot safer on the urban streets. We need to know why you are buying a bike, fun or intended commuting?
 
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