Bachelor/Bachleorette Parties- HOW FAR IS TOO FAR???

not on topic but i am philosophically opposed to stag and doe, stag and hen parties or what ever you want to call it. Its just a fundraiser and not fun. Same people that will be at the wedding, some lame games and drunk chicks that already have dates.

should be outlawed
 
I dated two women (not at the same time) that thought that going to a strip club was too far. I disagreed, but respected their opinions... IMHO, the bachelor(ette) party is no different than any other night of your life. You're together and committed to each other and bound by the rules of your relationship, regardless of the status of your relationship.

I'm not going to judge your friends for not calling off the marriage. Maybe he didn't intend for things to get as far as they did, maybe he's truly sorry, and maybe she loves him enough to forgive him.
 
Always been curious why "one last one" was acceptable. What message would be sent to your Partner? That one more is needed before you have to endure them?! Personally, if my prospective Partner was that immature, they wouldn't be the one for me.

Having a few drinks, strippers, etc big deal but there are definite lines I think most people have. Why not ask the Partner what is acceptable and not offensive to him?

I actually think anything you would not do the day after the wedding is off the table before the wedding. A best man that allows the groom to get so polluted he has no idea what he's doing and doesn't have the guys back is not a best man.
Strippers, ok if you have to, humiliation, that will happen for the next 40 yrs on its own. Rub and Tugs? no.
The movie versions of bachelor parties are not real life.

To answer your question , I don't consider it one last chance for cheating. Serious lack of self respect for a lot of people and the booze made me do it is not an acceptable answer, if your cant handle yourself drink less.

+1 to the above
 
Strippers is fine. Lap dances are fine... Anything past that isn't ok.
Basically, anything goes except genital contact.
If you feel the need for one last time, then you're not marrying the right person.
 
from the point of serious dating onward, anything that surpasses a friendly kiss on the cheek (the one on your face) is grounds for trouble

rippers doing their thing is fine as long as the recieving end keeps their space and/or composure

I might be a bit old school.....but happily married for 17 years and plan on going for 60
 
rippers doing their thing is fine as long as the recieving end keeps their space and/or composure

does that ripper happen to be named Jack??
 
Got married in '88. No peelers, no rub and tugs. Just some booze and poker. Oh, and someone dug out some 8mm films.

A few years later friend went into a private room at the peeler bar, where I used to watch rock bands play.
I would consider that crossing the line.
Not that anything happened, just the innuendo.

Times are changing, but I still like the old school.
 
not on topic but i am philosophically opposed to stag and doe, stag and hen parties or what ever you want to call it. Its just a fundraiser and not fun. Same people that will be at the wedding, some lame games and drunk chicks that already have dates.

should be outlawed

I hear this sentiment a lot these days FYI..
 
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I here this sentiment a lot these days FYI..

i got married a year and a half ago. my close friends and i went for steaks, walked through a casino, then went and played pool at our usual place. it was great. some of my outer fringe friends wanted to throw a party that involved strippers etc. my best man told them no, that it wasnt respectful to me or my wife to put me in that situation.

as for stag & does, i hate them and refuse to go or buy tickets to them, i skipped a good friends stag. tickets were 15, plus drinks, games, food tickets etc. it payed for their 10 day jamaican honeymoon. he invited people he pretty much hates, hasnt seen in years, exes, everyone. it was pathetic.
 
as for stag & does, i hate them and refuse to go or buy tickets to them, i skipped a good friends stag. tickets were 15, plus drinks, games, food tickets etc. it payed for their 10 day jamaican honeymoon. he invited people he pretty much hates, hasnt seen in years, exes, everyone. it was pathetic.

Yeah, that's about it. I also found out that on destination weddings, the bride and groom stay free if they bring enough people along. Like, do they mention that up front to the guests?
 
Yeah, that's about it. I also found out that on destination weddings, the bride and groom stay free if they bring enough people along. Like, do they mention that up front to the guests?

That gem has gone on for a while, they can actually be ok PROVIDED the bride and groom aren't wankers. The angle that your getting a vacation, then your date spends 3-4 days catering to bridezilla. The Groom wants all the boys to do silly ***** cause its his big week....

I feel bad for kids that really cant afford it but dont want to be the friends left out so they put $3,500 on the visa to attend a wedding.

For a stag i will always buy a ticket and depending on where it is and who's going I'll attend. For the combo Stag and Does I'll buy a tickets but I'm not going to attend ever, I'd skip my own kids event if it was a stag and doe.
 
Strippers is fine. Lap dances are fine... Anything past that isn't ok.
Basically, anything goes except genital contact.
If you feel the need for one last time, then you're not marrying the right person.

This would be where I'd draw the line. I'd gone to so many strip clubs in my teens and early twenties, I had no interest in it - and still don't. I did a red-eye to Atlantic city with my wedding party and a few good friends for mine.
 
Tickets to Stag and Does? Never heard of that before but I wouldn't join in with that crap. Is everything getting commercialised these days?

I remember a wedding invite a while back that came from some people I hardly knew....there was a nice big wedding list attached too of course.

I remember in the UK a friend got married and one of the party was a police inspector. The groom to be was found naked handcuffed to a lamp post later that night by two policemen who were informed of where the "suspect" might be.

Also heard a rumour of one guy who, on his stag night, got put on the last train to Liverpool in the UK with "I hate scousers" written in Sharpie pen on his forehead.
 

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