Breaking Ties With My Family To Obtain A Motorcycle.

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Seems like you have a strong head on your shoulders. This decision is yours and yours only to make. yes family will eventually come around and will always be there. If you can afford everything on your own without having to sacrifice anything than you know what call to make. At almost 20 you are now an adult and the decision to get a motorcycle whether right or wrong in your parents eyes is your decision. Every man has to come out of their parents shadow and make their own calls. I guarantee you they do this out of love and not to hold you back. They love you so much that they don't even want to think about you getting hurt on a bike. So prioritize what is important to you and make the decision.
 
Put yourself in his parent's shoes. I only have a toddler (and an infant) and she already does things that piss me off, ie taunt me by doing the opposite of what i tell her to do, after i've told her 5 times. Excusable and expected cause she's a toddler. But when she'll be in her later teens, it's a pretty basic understanding that if we're going to live together, and i pay the bills, you follow my rules within reasonable margin. And even though you're getting into adulthood, i expect some level of respect of the rules i set in place.

If you don't follow them when i blatantly tell you NOT to do it...well... what reaction do you expect: 'oh that's okay buddy, in life, you can break all the rules and have no consequences and everybody will be happy with you' ??!? That's why in my mindset is more of a "get out of the house if you wanna make your own rules"

In my case i got my gear, course, license while i was still living at home. Then i moved out. Then life happened. And finally a few years later i was able to get the bike, i just had to use a little bit of patience. But it was totally worth it.
 
Sometimes those rules are stupid and childish. Parents seem to think their grown a** son is a 10 year old baby and that's a connection that needs to severed painfully if necessary. He needs to establish that boundary otherwise his mom is just going push him around, time to man up.
 
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Time to man up?

Yup time to move out. That'll make ya a man.

Arguing with set rules doesn't make you a man, esp arguing with your mom.
 
He basically has no choice he can't get a car or a motorcycle. Those set rules were made when he was a little kid which he isn't anymore, sometimes you got to break those rules and parents will understand that their kids are growing up. They have a real hard time accepting that, thats the real problem here.
 
Sounds like a hell of a situation; luckily I have not had to go through it myself. But honestly, if you want to ride, you will find a way, and it will be up to them whether or not to support you or not. I have had friends who have left home to buy cars and have ended up back home during hardship, and more often than not their parents accepted the cars. Having said that, I don't know you, your family, and how they could react; I hope it works out for you.
 
What the hell are you talking about aren't you the one that said "Yup time to move out. That'll make ya a man". You obviously disagree, He can do whatever he wants, including bringing a bike home and his parents getting over it.
 
Sure, he can do whatever he wants. Buy the bike ...but if it's not accepted, be ready to leave or sell the bike. Want to make the rules? Get you own place. If he's ready for the options, go ahead.
 
everyone keeps replying but the OP is nowhere to be found.

nice little ploy to boost traffic maybe?
 
Noob28 said:
He can do whatever he wants, including bringing a bike home and his parents getting over it. [/COLOR]
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You must still live at home.

My son is going on 21. He still lives at home and I love him to death. He's an adult and we treat him accordingly, but we still have firm lines in the sand on various topics regarding what is (and is not) acceptable while he lives under our roof.

If he decides to "do whatever he wants" despite such, I can, and will, show him the door, and I've told him that to his face. Our rules on some topics are simple and reasonable - flagrantly disregard them and you'll find your **** on the front lawn and the door keypad will have a new combination. Beyond that point, he can then "do whatever he wants" under his own damn roof.
 
Mina said:
This. Family first. Always. You're an idiot if you think otherwise.
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Always without a doubt, however sometimes it is best to keep the peace while maintaining the ability to make personal decisions. And if that means for you to keep your distance then so be it, but to severe relationships, IMHO will never be worth it.


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Mad Mike said:
This is not a race thing, it's a generational thing.

It's very common for millennials to be "bubblewrapped" against risks by their parents. It starts young, it's dangerous to walk to school so they are driven. It's dangerous to ride minibikes, play contact sports, ski, snowboard so they play on their game consoles, phones and computers. It's dangerous to be out on their own at 18, so they stay with mom and dad till they're 28.

Not all of them, but a lot of them. I have 3 kids in their 20s, it amazes me how many of their adult friends still live with their parents. When I look back at my youth, getting a drive to school meant you rode the schoolbus, lots of us had dirtbikes, we played tackle football at recess, and most played at least one contact sport. You left home right after finishing school.

Things change.
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I save about $700 in rent & probably 100 or more in food a month. Wouldn't be financially responsible to move out when I can just shove the money into savings accounts and watch em grow... My parents are great too, otherwise I might have a different opinion.
 
PrivatePilot said:
You must still live at home.

My son is going on 21. He still lives at home and I love him to death. He's an adult and we treat him accordingly, but we still have firm lines in the sand on various topics regarding what is (and is not) acceptable while he lives under our roof.

If he decides to "do whatever he wants" despite such, I can, and will, show him the door, and I've told him that to his face. Our rules on some topics are simple and reasonable - flagrantly disregard them and you'll find your **** on the front lawn and the door keypad will have a new combination. Beyond that point, he can then "do whatever he wants" under his own damn roof.
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Exactly. I give mine freedom appropriate to their ages. In the end it's my house, my rules.
 
Yeah I guess so but parents are different and he should see how much he can push it. It all depends on how far he is willing to go.
 
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