Did you hide your bikes expense from your spouse?

[LePhillou]

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Why talk? Cause when you don't and she finds out...she reciprocates.

That's how i ended up with a dog i didnt want (yet)
Women are vindictive.

Although i did talk about the bike...like for the 6 months prior. And she was "okay" with it, she wasn't okay with the extra 1.5 grand it cost compared to what i was aiming at but that's another story

 

[sonnythebull]

If the money you spend on anything doesn't change your life in a bad way you should spend it how you wish, with no need to convince , coerce, beg, justify or discuss with your surrogate mommy... If she demands something as well because you bought something you married the wrong person. As most people do.

 

[crankcall]

money causes more rifts in a relationship than anything else, unless you have lots, then there is other stuff to deal with. That's why rich people divorce to.

Like anything in life, wanting it just because you want it IS A GOOD ENOUGH REASON. Unless your CC balance is in the thousands, you have a mortgage, you have kids that may want to go to school or you have student debt. Then pay your damn bills before buying toys. Its not hard people.

 

[sonnythebull]

money causes more rifts in a relationship than anything else, unless you have lots, then there is other stuff to deal with. That's why rich people divorce to.

Like anything in life, wanting it just because you want it IS A GOOD ENOUGH REASON. Unless your CC balance is in the thousands, you have a mortgage, you have kids that may want to go to school or you have student debt. Then pay your damn bills before buying toys. Its not hard people.

yes but the issue here is people (men) who have the money and still have to beg and bow to their "mommy" to " allow" them to buy something

 

[ZX600]

It seems the room is divided into a few segments:

and this is in reference to big a significant purchase (i.e motorcycles, equipment, cars, etc) not small purchases (loto ticket, oil for the motorcycle, etc)

Segment 1: The ones that do not feel comfortable talking to their significant others about purchases they want to make because they are afraid they will not agree with it and it will become an issue (whatever the issue is)

Segment 2: The ones that think you should just go and buy whatever you want without even letting the person you live with know, since you are the "MAN" and you have a big Man card.

Segment 3: The ones that feel secure enough on their relationship that they can communicate, not only to get advice in some cases but just for respect towards the other person.

You pick which one you are out of that list! no need to argue about it.

IMO - if you have the money and need to beg then there is something wrong in your relationship, if you have the money and feel you should just go and buy without even a respectful FYI, then to me there is also something wrong in your relationship.

 

[sonnythebull]

It seems the room is divided into a few segments:

and this is in reference to big a significant purchase (i.e motorcycles, equipment, cars, etc) not small purchases (loto ticket, oil for the motorcycle, etc)

Segment 1: The ones that do not feel comfortable talking to their significant others about purchases they want to make because they are afraid they will not agree with it and it will become an issue (whatever the issue is)

Segment 2: The ones that think you should just go and buy whatever you want without even letting the person you live with know, since you are the "MAN" and you have a big Man card.

Segment 3: The ones that feel secure enough on their relationship that they can communicate, not only to get advice in some cases but just for respect towards the other person.

You pick which one you are out of that list! no need to argue about it.

IMO - if you have the money and need to beg then there is something wrong in your relationship, if you have the money and feel you should just go and buy without even a respectful FYI, then to me there is also something wrong in your relationship.

you explain to me why it's disrespectful to buy something if it doesn't impact the woman's life in any way?
im not saying keep it a secret I'm saying there is no reason to "discuss" it. Of course I would say I'm going to pick up this that or the other today or I would let her know about it because I'm excited and want to share but I would never ever ask permission or try to find a way to convince her and frankly she wouldn't try and stop me anyway...That is flat out insanity and childish on the man and woman's part.
15 years later and I can't get enough her. One of the many reasons is she isn't a resentful controlling cow

 

[ZX600]

you explain to me why it's disrespectful to buy something if it doesn't impact the woman's life in any way?
im not saying keep it a secret I'm saying there is no reason to "discuss" it. Of course I would say I'm going to pick up this that or the other today or I would let her know about it because I'm excited and want to share but I would never ever ask permission or try to find a way to convince her and frankly she wouldn't try and stop me anyway...That is flat out insanity and childish on the man and woman's part.
15 years later and I can't get enough her. One of the many reasons is she isn't a resentful controlling cow

"Of course I would say I'm going to pick up this that or the other today or I would let her know about it because I'm excited and want to share but I would never ever ask permission or try to find a way to convince her and frankly she wouldn't try and stop me anyway"

This is all I am saying. I never said it was disrespectful to go and buy something, I said "give an FYI for respect to the person you live with" that is very different than having to discuss the merits of the purchase or try to get permission to go ahead.

 

[sonnythebull]

"Of course I would say I'm going to pick up this that or the other today or I would let her know about it because I'm excited and want to share but I would never ever ask permission or try to find a way to convince her and frankly she wouldn't try and stop me anyway"

This is all I am saying.

Fine it didn't seem like it and you know the point of this topic isn't sharing , it's begging, manipulating, or controlling wives or the gimme gimme that goes on from these guys wives when the husband want to buy some thing .

 

[Ducati Dude]

yes but the issue here is people (men) who have the money and still have to beg and bow to their "mommy" to " allow" them to buy something

You know the point of this topic isn't sharing , it's begging, manipulating, or controlling wives or the gimme gimme that goes on from these guys wives when the husband wants to buy something .

Exactly!!!

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[Matt Rain]

It seems the room is divided into a few segments:

and this is in reference to big a significant purchase (i.e motorcycles, equipment, cars, etc) not small purchases (loto ticket, oil for the motorcycle, etc)

Segment 1: The ones that do not feel comfortable talking to their significant others about purchases they want to make because they are afraid they will not agree with it and it will become an issue (whatever the issue is)

Segment 2: The ones that think you should just go and buy whatever you want without even letting the person you live with know, since you are the "MAN" and you have a big Man card.

Segment 3: The ones that feel secure enough on their relationship that they can communicate, not only to get advice in some cases but just for respect towards the other person.

You pick which one you are out of that list! no need to argue about it.

IMO - if you have the money and need to beg then there is something wrong in your relationship, if you have the money and feel you should just go and buy without even a respectful FYI, then to me there is also something wrong in your relationship.

Little bit of 2 and 3.

Her - I think you own more shoes than I do.
Me - You think? It's not even close.

I throw out her stinky old shoes without telling her and buy her new ones.

We both pull in above average middle class salaries. No debt and proper savings/investments.

Cheapskates are aggravating.

 

[Face]

Segment 3: The ones that feel secure enough on their relationship that they can communicate, not only to get advice in some cases but just for respect towards the other person.

IMO - if you have the money and need to beg then there is something wrong in your relationship, if you have the money and feel you should just go and buy without even a respectful FYI, then to me there is also something wrong in your relationship.

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you explain to me why it's disrespectful to buy something if it doesn't impact the woman's life in any way?
im not saying keep it a secret I'm saying there is no reason to "discuss" it. Of course I would say I'm going to pick up this that or the other today or I would let her know about it because I'm excited and want to share but I would never ever ask permission or try to find a way to convince her and frankly she wouldn't try and stop me anyway...That is flat out insanity and childish on the man and woman's part.
15 years later and I can't get enough her. One of the many reasons is she isn't a resentful controlling cow

Spending big money on something like a bike also usually means a big commitment in time too. So yes it may be your bike but it does affect her. Its not about having to do everything together, but about wanting to do things together and supporting each other in the things that make you (individually or together) happy. Its about mutual love, caring and respect. If you have it, don`t do anything to screw it up. If you don`t, then you really need to think about why you`re together.

 

[inreb]

Some guys are like kids with their toys, it's never enough while wifey wears a pasted on grin "supporting" her hero.

 

[sonnythebull]

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Spending big money on something like a bike also usually means a big commitment in time too. So yes it may be your bike but it does affect her. Its not about having to do everything together, but about wanting to do things together and supporting each other in the things that make you (individually or together) happy. Its about mutual love, caring and respect. If you have it, don`t do anything to screw it up. If you don`t, then you really need to think about why you`re together.

You make no sense . We were talking about money not time. Calm down Dr.phil.

 

[sonnythebull]

Some guys are like kids with their toys, it's never enough while wifey wears a pasted on grin "supporting" her hero.

You don't know women at all. They are either bitching about ,ruining or trying to stop the fun or are happy the husband isn't a whipped bore and that he has interests.
there really isn't a wife version that you suggest.

 

[inreb]

You don't know women at all. They are either bitching about ,ruining or trying to stop the fun or are happy the husband isn't a whipped bore and that he has interests.
there really isn't a wife version that you suggest.

Thanks for including me in the discussion and yes, maybe it's true I don't know women. I only have three sisters and a mother, have known many others and of course have dated. Married? No. Speaking of pasted on grin, just as a small example I can list many instances some very recent where I'm talking bikes with bro while S.O. squirms.

 

[Ducati Dude]

You don't know women at all. They are either bitching about ,ruining or trying to stop the fun.

That sounds familiar...

 

[sonnythebull]

Thanks for including me in the discussion and yes, maybe it's true I don't know women. I only have three sisters and a mother, have known many others and of course have dated. Married? No. Speaking of pasted on grin, just as a small example I can list many instances some very recent where I'm talking bikes with bro while S.O. squirms.

your sisters and mother don't count unless you are banging them.

 

[inreb]

your sisters and mother don't count unless you are banging them.

Sure thing slick because I don't see and hear about their shenanigans, some even legit. Be that as it may I'll need to sign off now as I need to go to the transfer station and then pop 'round to Sherwin-Williams for some of that 40% off paint. This will be done at my own volition.

 

[Joe Bass]

your sisters and mother don't count unless you are banging them.

Inreb, not inbred, not incest. Inreb.

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[Face]

You make no sense . We were talking about money not time. Calm down Dr.phil.

I've got a street bike. So if I decide to buy a track bike & trailer, I'm not going to be spending extra time at the track? Dirt bike, same thing. Agreed, it doesn't apply to buying a high end shock, but if I farkle up my bike for touring, you bet I'm gonna want to take off for a week. Even if I didn't, you don't think a domineering wife is going to read that into it?

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